No dating for 5 years...whats changed? so cruel: Had a great Friday night. I work with this woman who is really beautiful and really cool, and have been flirting with her off and on for a couple of weeks. Friday night, we go out with some people from work and we end up spending the night at her place. It was awesome!! Had a great time and shared many connections if you know what I mean? ;D Not just physical though...lots of good talk etc...had to leave early the next morning and I left her a note thanking her and left my number and told her to call me when she wanted to. Besides the perma-grin I had on all day Saturday, I had no idea what to do next! I think I am rusty at the dating thing, because my instincts are all screwed up. Went back and forth on if I should call her and finally decided besides wanting to, its only the gentlemanly thing to do...so I call her and leave a message saying thanks, hope her day was good, and to give me a call sometime. Well its now Tuesday and no call...what am I supposed to think....I am going to see her at work tonight and I think its going to be a little weird...any thoughts and advice from my expert cyber friends/therapists?????
S.C.
Re: No dating for 5 years...whats changed? chaotic: Way to go. Sounds like you had a great night. I remember my morning after grin after my first "encounter" after my x left me.
As for the call, I think you did the right thing. I think the trick is to call, but not get needy and start calling every hour.
Maybe she figured she would see you today at work and thought she would save the call for some face to face conversation. That is sometimes better than talking over the phone (more intimate and all).
Re: No dating for 5 years...whats changed? so cruel: Thanks chaotic...I must admit that your post regarding your new friend and your climbing date was a little bit of an inspiration...both in just allowing myself to feel something, and in the whole idea of to call or not to call. I hope things go really well with you!
On a broader note, it seems to me that the last time I was dating I had no qualms about what the "rules" were. Now it seems that the whole concept of dating has changed. Is it just my perspective, my apprehension, or is it something that has just simply changed and I have to get updated to the times? I know a lot of these issues are dealt with elswhere on the board, but they seem to be a common theme...any thought from anyone?
SC
Re: No dating for 5 years...whats changed? Chris: a word of advice............i would watch out learning to date again by dating a co-worker.
Re: No dating for 5 years...whats changed? chaotic: Did you get a chance to talk to her at work? How did it go?
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