Just Great startingover: It's not bad enough I couldn't make it to my girl's orchestra recital tonight due to one of her brothers not feeling well. She just called me hysterical, her violin is in pieces. Someone left their case in the isle and she tripped. I talked her threw it and told her all was ok. It was an accident. They found her a loaner for the night, one of the conductors will take her's home and see if it can be fixed. I'm proud of her, pulled herself toghether and is on stage right now.
Part of me hopes that it's the last we have seen of that thing. It's been a thorn in all of our sides since it graced us with it's presence. R asked her grandparents for a violin so she could learn to play, but a student violin wasn't good enough for her. My dad went out and spent $400 on this d@mn thing for a 9 year old. Every time he calls, he asks her about it & if she is taking care of it, always a lecture and guilt trip on the "responsibilities" of owning something so nice, and how he went out of his way to find it for her. She won't even talk to him when he calls now. Won't he just love it if he finds out it is now in pieces.
Re: Just Great YellowJacket: Sorry, SO. That's horrible that he's driven his own granddaughter away like that. :( Hopefully if it is gone for good he won't keep going on and on about it. It's kind of a scary thought that this might encourage him to lecture more because of what happened.
Re: Just Great startingover: I thought about that too. I know its not right, but as far as I am concerned, he never needs to know. I'm done playing into his passive-agressive games. It will end with me being told I am an irresponsible parent for letting this happen, and ungrateful after I tell him to knock it off.
I don't need it, my life is too full. I'm graduating from college this year, raising three kids, working, and still finding time for special activites with my kids. If he can't be supportive, he doesn't need to be an active participant in our lives.
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It will end with me being told I am an irresponsible parent for letting this happen, and ungrateful after I tell him to knock it off.
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Unbelievable! Seriously, unbelievable. How can a grandparent be like that? They are supposed to be kind and loving and the place that a child always wants to go....
It sounds like you've definitely got your head on straight about the whole thing. You're right -- you don't need any more stress above what you're already carrying.
Have you told him calmly how you feel? I guess it's always possible he doesn't really understand the way this affects you and your daughter. Although it sounds like this is just another step in a long pattern so that's probably not the case. :(
Re: Just Great startingover: You're right, it is a long pattern. I tried telling him once how I feel, it didn't end well. I have found it is just easier to keep them out of my day to day life as much as possible. One of these days I'll get around to telling my whole story.
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