Re: For those who were cheated on lilly10: [quote author=chaotic link=topic=29051.msg282601#msg282601 date=1147893967">
Sometimes the greatest form of revenge you can have is the other person knowing you are now happy.
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For me that is the only form of revenge.
I use to want my ex to say he was sorry but I dont even care anymore. Had he of said he was sorry when I was hurting so deeply that may of mattered but now.......who cares.
Re: For those who were cheated on sudboy: [quote author=lilly10 link=topic=29051.msg282606#msg282606 date=1147894685">
[quote author=chaotic link=topic=29051.msg282601#msg282601 date=1147893967">
Sometimes the greatest form of revenge you can have is the other person knowing you are now happy.
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For me that is the only form of revenge.
I use to want my ex to say he was sorry but I dont even care anymore. Had he of said he was sorry when I was hurting so deeply that may of mattered but now.......who cares.
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I want to second this sentiment. Anything less, and you're really just seeking approval from your EX.
Suds
Re: For those who were cheated on Falcon554: Well if it was not for money right now we would not be living together, but it has to be this way for now.
It is what it is now. I do love her more then anything in the world, will we ever be "back together" like we were? No. Can we start a new relationship? maybe, but right now im just happy to wake up with my daughter everyday and go out with a woman I took for granted for along time and have fun with her. Ill let time figure out what is going to happen.
Scott
Re: For those who were cheated on xiphoidfugu: I hear ya....although I haven't actually gone through a divorce (yet, still might happen)...My wife and I have to start from scratch....it sucks, having lived and experienced each other for almost 14 years....but if we are meant to be together, then this is what has to happen. We both have to take a really deep look at and into ourselves and figure out if this is right. I have to admit we grew into a relationship based on bad habit....she was in total control of us and our lives....she took total advantage of it for her own benefit..and I took advantage of it...letting her have control over everything...less work for me....but resentment took over.
Funny you should mention Karma though.....my wife believes strongly in Karma and is always telling people it's goona bite them in the ass....guess she never thought it would bite her aswell.
Re: For those who were cheated on ctrlaltdelete: [quote author=chaotic link=topic=29051.msg282601#msg282601 date=1147893967">
I truly hope that one day she comes to me and says she is sorry, feels guilty and reallizes the mistake she made......
I want to look her straight in the eyes, see the pain, reach in my pocket and grab the old wedding ring....Give her a small loving smile.....
Then throw the wedding ring in her face followed by the glass of wine I am drinking. Call her a b!tch that got what she deserves and walk out of the restaraunt with the biggest sh!t eating grin on my face. And leave her with the bill. For at that point I will have had my revenge.[/quote">
Would that really be enough? Would it make all the pain go away and make it all better? Would it erase the pain of the past? No. Revenge is just revenge. It is short-lived and usually not terribly effective. My X and his bimbo both got what was coming to them (his and her life turned out really terrible - hers more than his) yet although I had always wished for that, it did nothing to make me feel better about the situation. Revenge had no healing effects.
However, forgiveness, completely moving on and living a happy life without giving him a second thought has been, well... priceless.
Revenge is a true waste of time giving you only short-term satisfaction and, in many cases, bringing you down to their level. Take the high road.
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