On the other hand... Tarheel: Falcon's story is different than most of ours. He and his ex-wife have come a long way in a year.
However, not all of us can maintain a relationship with our respective ex's. My, what can happen in a year...
It was one year ago tonight that my ex-wife called me at midnight to come down and save her from the OM. And being too nice like I naturally am, I got little one around, drove her down to the OM's house and picked her up. Then we drove to the police station to file a report on him for the beating he put on her.
Five days after that, she was back with him.
By September, they were done again, and with nowhere else to go, she was on a plane back home to Pennsylvania. And now, she's living in Key West, Florida with a guy she barely knows.
All I'm saying is that whereas a relationship with the ex after an affair and divorce IS possible, it's NOT likely. It takes a lot of work, a lot of understanding and communication, and total responsibility for one's actions. And if ONE party isn't up to complete honesty with the other, nothing will ever be accomplished.
No matter if you're lovers, friends, or even mother/daughter...
Re: On the other hand... lilly10: I agree fully Tarhell. I would think far more often the relationship is broken beyond repair. I would not even be willing to put forth the effort that is needed to rebuild after the betrayal I expierienced. I think that some really want to be back with they're ex's and I wish them luck.
Re: On the other hand... barelybreathing: Tarheel,
Remain steadfast in your journey. Remember that the seeds you are cultivating are very much fruitful, whereas the seeds our ex's are planting are not.
It is tough, it is frustrating, it is painful, but please remain steadfast. Your wisdom, your growth, your journey will not be in vain.
BB
Re: On the other hand... bluskygrl: [quote author=Hurricane Tarheel link=topic=29065.msg282614#msg282614 date=1147895570">
takes a lot of work, a lot of understanding and communication, and total responsibility for one's actions. And if ONE party isn't up to complete honesty with the other, nothing will ever be accomplished.
No matter if you're lovers, friends, or even mother/daughter...
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AMEN - you are doing well! Sometimes toxic people are best left out of your life and far away - in a hurricane zone :)
Blu
