Re: Thinking about some things... amanarama: I understand your concern, but if you don't want her then why do you object to her being happy with someone else?
If you want her to be happy, and truly believed you could make her happy, why did you seperate?
I have just split from a husband of 3 years. He has gone literally crazy (temporarily I hope!!) After sharing everything with him and relying on him totally for all this time, I am suddenly being forced to do everything alone, make all my own decisions, with no one to turn to for support at the end of the day.
Fortunately I m aware that this makes me vulnerable, and I know that there are alot of other sharks out there who would happily take advantage of the situation.
I want my ex back, but i have no guarantees, and sitting around crying all day is making me sick and feel psycho. It is completely paralysing, and I would love to go out to dinner with a man, just to talk about something comletely off the topic, to feel attractive, and to help me realise that my husband and I are seperate people. We have been too co-dependent.
This does not mean that I will cheat on my ex, or allow myself to be taken advantage of. It is more about getting to know me again, in a different context, in the eyes of someone else.
It helps with the loneliness and the desperation, so that if my husb. and I do get back together again, it will be for the right reasons - i.e. I love him, he is sane and we enjoy each other, rather than for the wrong ones - I'm lonely, I can't live without you, I need you to be my 'slave' (his words) otherwise I can't survive....
From a woman's perspective - let her find her way. If she comes back, it will then be a healthier, more appreciative women who returns to you.
Also, becasue I am in love with my hubbie, even though i see oterh men socially, it makes me realise even more how much I miss him and how he still takes the number one spot in my heart.
Re: Thinking about some things... ih8BeinAlone: LUMPY - I'm not "trying" to blame the OM... but i think it's sick that someone would take advantage of the situation like that. She's a very influencial person and is very dependant on a man.
toofreshtothinkright - totally know where you're coming from. just wish for the 1 more chance you know?
onely - it took her seeing someone else and moving out of the house for me to realize how much i loved her and screwed things up. i've been going through a hard time for the past year and she's always been there. at times forcing herself into my life. now that she's gone i've grown up a lot and realized that i wanted to marry this girl. but some douche bag cop has exploited the situation.
the one thing is that this other dude is a body gaurd to a senator. so he's out of town 2 weeks every month. she's moving into an apartment and has no friends down here. but i know her pride will keep her from calling me! :(
