Re: I Feel Like a Real Jerk!!! kramdensdaddy: To LNC:
That is the best advise I got!!! Thank you very much!!! You seem like a very understanding person!!!
It's like I said, even though I never wanted to go; (it would have been very uncomfortable), I feel bad that I had to resort to deceit to get out of going.
I didn't like having to do that. That is what bothers me. I usually get along well with my co-workers.
But thanks again for the advise; I really appreciate it!!!
Rich
Re: I Feel Like a Real Jerk!!! Chey: Personally I think you're sounding VERY much like a petulant child. Get over yourself and your feelings of "being a jerk", and try think about WHY you even give 2 craps enough that you DO feel that way.
Yes yes, you don't want to go to the wedding anyway...so what's the problem? Perhaps you should feel like a jerk that you put yourself and your wife through the depression that you did.
Grow up and realise that sometimes in your marriage temptations happen. You brush it off, you deal with it and you move on. If you have to resort to deceit then that's what you do. You cut off contact, you don't talk to her, in fact I'm surprised you didn't get a transfer right out of there so you didn't even have to see her.
Sorry I'm not all sweetness and light, but whining about the fact that you feel this way, is counter productive to your marriage. It's taking thoughts and energy away from where it really matters.
Sorry for not being "understanding" but you sound like you need a good dose of reality right now.
Re: I Feel Like a Real Jerk!!! kramdensdaddy: Chey:
Thank you for that "tough love"; I guess I do deserve it.
One thing I did not mention is that the girl made several comments to a few of my co-workers something to the effect of "he's become a real jerk."
You must realize as far as she was concerned I stopped communicating with her for no reason at all. This bothered me.
As far as transferring out of the store, I did consider it. However, aside from this I love the location where I am working, my other co-workers etc. Besides that, leaving would be running away from the problem; I felt I should deal with it rather than run away from it.
Re: I Feel Like a Real Jerk!!! DarrenB: [quote author=kramdensdaddy link=topic=29080.msg283474#msg283474 date=1148071336">
You must realize as far as she was concerned I stopped communicating with her for no reason at all. This bothered me.[/quote">
You must be kidding? What do you mean it bothered you to stop communicating with her? What is more important here? Not communicating with this person or your marriage????
[quote"> As far as transferring out of the store, I did consider it. However, aside from this I love the location where I am working, my other co-workers etc. Besides that, leaving would be running away from the problem; I felt I should deal with it rather than run away from it.
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Again.... What is more important here? Working in a nice, pretty convenient location with your friends ..or, um..uh...YOUR MARRIAGE??
Dude, you have got to do one thing or the other here. Deal with the consequences and the ramifications...and take it like a man. You have to figure out what is most important in your life. As Chey mentioned, you are behaving childishly here.
Re: I Feel Like a Real Jerk!!! kramdensdaddy: I didn't really mean not communicating with her is what bothered me. Not getting along with my co-workers in general is what I was talking about.
Anyway thank you all for the advise. It definitely helped to get this off my chest and get all your opinions.
I will keep all communication off with this person and concentrate on my marriage; no matter what my co-workers think. This is the most important thing right now!!!
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