Am I just a cave man or did I do something really stupid amIacaveman: OK, here is the situation... Last month it was my GF's birthday. I got her a present that she really wanted and it was really hard to find. Since we are not living together yet, and we both have hectic work schedules we can only meet on the weekends (duh!). So, I gave her the present two weekends before her birthday, because I had to go on a business trip the same week as her birthday. Long story short...I forgot to call, email, whatever, on her birthday (yikes). I realized what I have done on the way back from the business trip and apologized (on my knees even!)
As of now we are "on a break" (uuhhhhh, Friends epsiode flash back!)
Because she feels she can't be with a person who forgets something as "important" as birthdays. And that she need a few months to think it over. Weather if she wants to be with me.
I fully admit that I commited a really bad mistake. And I am very sorry.
I won't make any excuses. But, how fair is it to judge me for only the mistake I've made. Sure, we both have differences in our opinions. And I truely believe a few good arguements does help in understanding of your mate.
Also, I think I have been a pretty good guy with her. Six months into our relationship she wanted to study Chinese to further her career. So she went to China for a year to study and ask me to wait for her. Which I did faithfully.
Note: waiting for a year is not as easy as you think. The last couple of months was the longest couple of months for sure.
I won't get into any other details, since it would make me look like a whiney S.O.B. Suffice to say I have been a loving, caring guy for her. (still am)
She said she needs time to think it through, which I understand but, a few months? It's not like I totally forgot her birthday. It just slip out of my mind.
I have no idea what to. I am starting ot resent her more and more as the days pass. Even if she forgives me, I don't think I want to be with her if this "break" lasts too long.
Am I just a cave man or did I do something really stupid?
Side note: I am a 34 male never been married.
She is 37 divorcee.
Re: Am I just a cave man or did I do something really stupid corkscrew: Wow, I wouldn't have broken up with you over that. Women are strange creatures. ;) Maybe she's having a mid-life crisis or needs to get her female part rehydrated.
Re: Am I just a cave man or did I do something really stupid amIacaveman: Sorry, I forgot to ask one more Question.
From a womans point of view how big of a mess is it to forget to call, email, insant message..whatever...on your birthday from your significant other?
1) Whip cream on the nose
2) Your fingers and face while eating KFC without wetnaps or napkins
3) Red wine all over your silk dress at the wedding reception
4) Your house after a party w/ people crashed at your place
5) A food fight
6) Your mother moving into your place after she tells you she divorced your father (yikes)
This numbering system is merely a funny guide line. They are not set in stone. Please add other levels of "mess" if you wish.
Re: Am I just a cave man or did I do something really stupid Ciera: For me it would be a 6. But I spent 8 years with a man who did very poorly when it came to birthdays and such. Did she have the same problem with her ex when she was married? It could be that he didn't do very well by her for birthdays either and you forgetting threw up a huge red flag that wouldn't be so big for others.
Re: Am I just a cave man or did I do something really stupid amIacaveman: I have no I idea. I have never asked about her ex. Honestly, I really didn't care about her ex. I figure it would dig up old hurtful memories for her. All I cared about is her right now and her future. Not her past.
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