Re: Ok, which is it? Lumpy: [quote author=chaotic link=topic=29092.msg283036#msg283036 date=1147978043">
Because that is what I am perceiving as happening. If that is what you are doing, then expect the guy to think you are too emotional. We can handle when you tell us your feelings. We have trouble when you hold them in until the boiling point then pour everything on us.
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Exactly. If the first time I'm hearing about a particular beef occurs while you are crying hysterically, I'm gonna get frustrated.
Re: Ok, which is it? 2be: As a guy, I certainly want to know what you're feeling when you're ready to share. For me though, it's HOW you share your emotions. My X wore her emotions on her sleeve and was just over-the-top all the time. After 11 years, I was battered down from her constant explosive emotional states. I simply couldn't deal with it anymore so I shut down.
Now, my "girlfriend" is the complete opposite, which is weird for me too. She has admitted that she is more open and vulnerable to me than she ever has been with anyone else. But she has also admitted that it is VERY hard for her to show emotion at all. It's not that she doesn't feel it, but there is a lot of her past that keeps that emotion bottled up inside.
I know I can't force her to open up to me. She has to learn to trust me and that can only happen with time. And I fully understand that this is her... she may NEVER change this about herself. All I've been able to do is express that I hope she will talk to me if there is something bothering her about "us" but otherwise... I can't do anything to change it.
Re: Ok, which is it? Plucky: @ Lump...teehee...me, crying hysterically. You funny guy. ;)
@ 2be...kudos. She most certainly appreciates your patience, I'm sure.
