Re: Ok, which is it? jillieb44: Exactly, Plucky. People don't want to know when you're down and out. They only want to see you when you're happy.
I'm NOT a very emotional person (despite my posts, LOL) in person; I don't wear my emotions on my sleeve. So everyone thinks things are hunky dory, but when I ever show a little bit of a crack, they don't want to know me.
Human nature I guess.
OTOH, I know women who are overly emotional, irrational, can't function in the world, never can keep a job, or money, nada, and they seem to have people fawning all over them, giving them cars, furniture, money, etc. The enablers. Where are they when the people who work their asses off hit hard times? These same people just say suck it up. I don't get it.
Jillie
Re: Ok, which is it? Plucky: Yep, Jillie..that about covers it. My only other issue is that people tend to think that they can demand my emotions or push me into trusting them. Not sure if you've had that problem, but it's a HUGE no-no in my world.
Re: Ok, which is it? superwife: Plucky, are you talking about new realtionships??? MOre specifically, when they ask you avout your past marriage?? B/c that is tough, I find, I try to stick to the facts. But I guess I wear emotions on my sleeve (even in the cyber world), b/c I feel it is obvious that I ahve been cheated on. [quote author=JB45 link=topic=29092.msg282934#msg282934 date=1147963904">
Exactly, Plucky. People don't want to know when you're down and out. They only want to see you when you're happy.
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Yes that is true... I was out with a ptential the other day, and my stbx called... oh shit, I thought. This could be really weird. He called me at an usnusual time, and my dtr was there, soi I had to answer. It went well, surpisingly. My ex was very civil to me (still not sure why). But it could have gotten ugly!!
I m,ade tha mistake of getting my last ex bf too invoilved in that side of me. I felt it was a conflict of interest, in a way. But he said, "I want to be your shoulder to cry on" and I fell for it!! Am I nuts. Never again.
But I think I am able (and have been while on a new manhunt) to balance it. Like you said, I don't want them to think I am a heartless biotch, who says f--- my ex (b/c that makes me look bitter). But they need to know taht I am okay with this and am not still getting over him, and carrying a torch. I can be very silly at times, but can turn it off and be serious as well.
Is this what you were talking about, Plucky??
Re: Ok, which is it? superwife: [quote author=Plucky link=topic=29092.msg282937#msg282937 date=1147964236">
My only other issue is that people tend to think that they can demand my emotions or push me into trusting them. Not sure if you've had that problem, but it's a HUGE no-no in my world.
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Yeah that... good luck with forcing trust on me... pulease!!
I heard that form my ex bf... I'm not your ex h... to that I said, we'll see. And he wasn't. That wans't the issue, but we were not together long enough to know the true outcome.
Re: Ok, which is it? Plucky: SW, it all ties together but it's not that complicated. I couldn't tell you about new relationships as I am un-date-able right now, I guess. But in other relationships with family and friends, I'm sick of being begged to open up just to have it thrown back in my face. I'm trying to accept that I'm just not one of those people who broadcasts myself 24/7. For a long time, though, it's really worried me.
I started the thread because it's really been bothering me for the last week or so due to an incident and this morning I just decided to say pluck it. The double talking from men in the future will probably be my doom, though.
Anybody got any cats to sell? LOL
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