Re: i just left him, but being the one who leaves doesnt make it easy corkscrew: You did do the right thing. Since you couldn't appreciate him, now he has the chance to find a woman who will appreciate his good looks and his other qualities you found "annoying." Now he can stop wasting time loving someone who finds his lack of passion alarming and focus on finding someone who will reawaken his libido.
Re: i just left him, but being the one who leaves doesnt make it easy Chey: [quote author=corkscrew link=topic=29505.msg288664#msg288664 date=1148929238">
You did do the right thing. Since you couldn't appreciate him, now he has the chance to find a woman who will appreciate his good looks and his other qualities you found "annoying." Now he can stop wasting time loving someone who finds his lack of passion alarming and focus on finding someone who will reawaken his libido.
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Good lord...is this what you mean by tough love?? There's nothing wrong with breaking up with someone when you're finding things arent' working out. That's what dating is for...if this were a marriage, then sure, that's a bigger problem, but the fact that she knows this now and isn't moving down that "marriage" road, doesn't make her wrong.
She's 22, and she's breaking someone's heart...good lord how many times did we do that, at that age, or have that done to us. It's a part of life until you find that right one that you DO want to marry one day.
Break ups are hard, but absolutely you did the right thing to do this now, rather than later.
Re: i just left him, but being the one who leaves doesnt make it easy Dolphin Close: I think you made the right decision because at age 22, there's a ton more that you have to learn about life and love. You've been going out with this guy when you were still starting to discover "commitment". I salute you for being honest with yourself and not pushing through with the wedding. I agree with the other ojarians here who have advised you to take some time alone and think.
I hope you don't rebound in L.A. (it's so easy to find rebounds there). Enjoy your move and re-discover yourself. Meanwhile, give yourself and your ex-bf a break by keeping that distance between the two of you.
You have emotionally checked-out. Don't push the envelope when you experience feelings of loneliness and guilt. It's a tough road but maybe the better one to take. Best of luck.
Re: i just left him, but being the one who leaves doesnt make it easy Feel: From what I have read, I beleive that you have... You walked away before you came to the road to marriage, what if u married and he felt he wasn't getting enough attention and he fooled around or vice versa... that wouldn't be fair, you left now, regardless good or bad... you don't want to have to walk away from a marriage with children involved especially!
Maybe you can be friends... enjoy yourself, you are young and need to experience life...
Think of it this way, he was your strength through your school years as you were his and now you are at another chaptr in his life and maybe he can meet a women who will enjoy him in every way!
Good luck, enjoy your freedom!
Re: i just left him, but being the one who leaves doesnt make it easy sosad05: [quote"> She's 22, and she's breaking someone's heart...good lord how many times did we do that, at that age, or have that done to us. It's a part of life until you find that right one that you DO want to marry one day.
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I completely agree! Its better to do it now, then marry him just because it seems like the next thing to do. Then, end up on this board, 10 years, a couple of affairs and 2 kids later! I'm sure it hurts but I definitely think you did the right think!
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