SNOOPING Irony: [color=maroon"> OK, so I had gotten out of the hospital on April 8th.
STBXW had been nice enough to help out tremendously:
• Got my son to and from school..
• Visited me in the hospital...
• Brought me clothes and took me home when they released me.
• Stayed at my house so my son wouldn't be alone.
• Let me buy her dinner and breakfast
• Stayed until Sunday afternoon April 9th... (slept on couch)
(and lots of other little things I'm grateful for that I haven't mentioned)
http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,27647.0.html
Here's the kicker:
After her visit to ojar last week...
http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,29323.0.html
...I had wondered how she found my screen name alias and had honed in directly on me and my posts. Well.. when I looked at her profile I saw that she had registered on April 9th. The very evening after she got home from my place.
Hmmmmm..
Here's what it looks like to me:
She snooped. She did to me what she has professed to hate.. she invaded my privacy.
She must have snooped my browser history and found ojar and iron man... she misses nothing.
It certainly didn't take her long to start lurking here and beginning to fume while keeping a 'friendly' exterior.
When I told her I needed an interior decorator to help me place the furniture in my new place, she said something like "why don't you use that woman on the card in your car?"
hmmm... While I had been at the rental office I had run into a woman who is an interior decorator and got her card. It was buried in the console of my car. A person would have had to dig for it.
hmmmm...
Lots of other little clues that my privacy had been violated. So not surprised that she should invade my privacy here at ojar.. the one place where I thought I could vent my pain and occasional anger at being dumped by the woman who said I was the 'love of her life"
She has made me acutely aware on a regular basis that boundaries and privacy and trust are big issues for her.. now I can see why they are.. she seems to have neither boundaries, trustworthiness, or a respect for others's privacy.
If I'm wrong about all this I humbly apologize.
Am I angry at her....
Not at all.
Today I feel sad for her... I pray daily for God to take the anger from her heart.. much of which was planted there long before she met me.
iron man
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Re: SNOOPING kev: That sucks IM.
But, as with everything else that I have noticed about you, you will handle this with grace and decorum.
And down the road, you will see that this was just another quality that you will not miss.
Be strong my friend, you have a way of landing on your feet and helping a bunch of people do the same.
Re: SNOOPING Lumpy: What's good for the goose and all that Iron. I had the exact same experience. When I went snooping and found her love letters she gave me the third degree. Guess the same rules don't apply to internet snooping. Stay Sane big guy.
Re: SNOOPING Irony: I'm plenty sane Lumpster.. just amazed.. she has continually professed that boundaries, privacy, and trust are such a HUGE issue for her.. Maybe it's just projection on her part.
She fears from others what she struggles with internally.
How ironic LOL
I will not say she is hypocrytical, just has her own sh*t to deal with, just liike the rest of us.
All I know is that I'm much better off now than even a couple weeks ago..
As I look back on the processes of the past 7 months, I see myself walking away from her one step at a time.. some are baby steps, some are steps backwards, some are HUGE steps forward.
I keep telling myself, "It's educational. It's educational!" :-\ :o
iron man
Re: SNOOPING Lumpy: [quote author=iron man (formerly irony) link=topic=29509.msg288594#msg288594 date=1148919595">
. just amazed.. she has continually professed that boundaries, privacy, and trust are such a HUGE issue for her.. Maybe it's just projection on her part.
She fears from others what she struggles with internally.
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I felt exactly the same way when this crap was going on with my ex. It's like "you do own a mirror, right?" It helped my to kinda flip the script a bit. Instead of being upset that she's instituting a double standard, I found it strangely comforting that she had any interest at all in what I was writing. It was an indication to me that she wasn't as over it as she tried to present.
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