Re: Do I Really Want To Know thehitekrednek: Amen Iron Man, Amen
Re: Do I Really Want To Know thehitekrednek: I now think it's best left alone. After just bringing up the question, of asking the questions, I feel much better, and you know, maybe I don't need to know, just leave it behind, and move on.
Thanks all
Re: Do I Really Want To Know yella: I applaud you, Spike!!! Very well done!!! ;)
Re: Do I Really Want To Know sheydp: Ok... I am a bit against the tide here... but I want complete honesty in a relationship. Although the truth is hard to hear sometimes, it points to where things REALLY are... if we duck the hard things, we can deceive ourselves. Now... another good thing to do, before asking, is figure out WHY you want to know something...
In the example you and I talked about earlier, the real reason to ask is to know IF and WHY something happened elsewhere that doesn't with you... whether that is in the bedroom or in conversation, the answers and discussion can make you stronger. It isn't so much the answer to whether it happened elsewhere, but can it happen WITH YOU. If not - why not? If it did elsewhere, but not with you - maybe it can (and maybe it can't) but at least the Why is important then. To hear someone else got something - or did something - or IS something - better than you in some area... that SUCKS. but so does believing you are getting and giving the best possible, when it really isn't true.
True communication involves telling things you don't want to say... and hearing things you don't want to hear... and still staying through it all and loving not IN SPITE OF... but BECAUSE OF... the fact that you can be that open and still love the imperfect human you are and the imperfect human you are with.
Maybe that is difficult... but I don't want to settle for less.
Shey
