So your best friend is dating an a--hole/bitch.... bluskygrl: I swear this is not a jealousy thing....
She doesn't even see it either.
Controlling, know it all, isolates her, corrects almost anyone and tells them what to do "this is what you have to do"...
In fact he is so much like her very abusive ex-h I am having traumatic flashbacks..
She has been single for 9 years and dating on and off, just got out of a longer relationship in February. So I think this is an anybody thats different from him scenario.
His first words to me after they started dating were about not getting involved with any of his friends so it wouldn't ruin their relationship!!!!
I feel like I am losing her to this jerk!
What do you do??
Blu
Re: So your best friend is dating an a--hole/bitch.... 2be: Is your friend open to you? Would she accept your opinion of the guy she is dating without throwing your friendship all weird? If you see how this jerk is treating her, I would tell her... it is what friends do for each other. But only if you know she'd actually listen to you and not freak out.
Re: So your best friend is dating an a--hole/bitch.... bluskygrl: We talked about this early on and once more a few weeks ago. I won't go into details but this man has some really big warning signs in his life.
Yes, we have all made mistakes and bad decisions, but I think she should be much more careful about all of these things that she has found out and whatever it is she doesn't know....
She says she is being careful and realistic , but her actions tell me differently.
She is my very best friend for the last 20 years. She and I share almost everything if not everything and we love and accept each other and our families pretty much no matter, what agreeing to disagree at times.
But I hate how she met this guy (not quite broken up with last guy) and he was very aggressive about getting to know her. I have such a strong negative reaction to him its scary......
He has already convinced her twice to change her plans when we were supposed to so do something together!
I guess I just watch and wait and see if it rides itself out..... but I have already seen her survive one relationship where she openly lied to me about physical, sexual and emotional abuse...
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We talked about this early on and once more a few weeks ago. I won't go into details but this man has some really big warning signs in his life.
Yes, we have all made mistakes and bad decisions, but I think she should be much more careful about all of these things that she has found out and whatever it is she doesn't know....
She says she is being careful and realistic , but her actions tell me differently.
She is my very best friend for the last 20 years. She and I share almost everything if not everything and we love and accept each other and our families pretty much no matter, what agreeing to disagree at times.
But I hate how she met this guy (not quite broken up with last guy) and he was very aggressive about getting to know her. I have such a strong negative reaction to him its scary......
He has already convinced her twice to change her plans when we were supposed to so do something together!
I guess I just watch and wait and see if it rides itself out..... but I have already seen her survive one relationship where she openly lied to me about physical, sexual and emotional abuse...
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I had a 20 year friendship that actually ended the same way, a friend of mine was involved with this girl and they took a vacation to cancun and while there this b^tch cheated on my friend, well he came back earlyand I was there and picked up all of the broken peices of him and wouldn't cha know? he ended up back with her! and then I was out.. I alway's figured it wouldn't last and they would break up and he'd be back around nope they got married ten years ago and I haven't seen him since
Re: So your best friend is dating an a--hole/bitch.... bluskygrl: Oh I am sorry I hope this doesn't happen! I am being careful not to cross that line so far.
It has been 3 days (2 is long for us) and she hasn't called me - no fight or anything just wrapped up in her world I'm sure.
But we have had those picking up the pieces moments in her life too. I once spent 2 1/2 hours on my cell phone while driving home over Christmas listening to her cry over the last bad boyfriend and wishing I could drive faster.
I just wish she would stop defining herself through relationships. She has two children that I love very much and honestly I am beginning to feel badly for them as they go through these men with her!
Thanks for responding!
Blu
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