Desperate, Concerned Hubby Having Nerous Breakdown

Desperate, Concerned Hubby Having Nerous Breakdown littledarland: Married when I was 19, Now am 67, same hubby. Very concerned about husband, thinking he is having breakdown. We are retired, he thinks everyone (son, etc.) is taking advantage of him. Have home here and one in Florida but says we don't have any friends (they have all died). We are both in generally good health. Our son has been married four times and is currently in a rocky 4th marriage. Our grandchildren (4) grown up but am really disappointed in that they are at this time. He thinks everyone does not want to do anything for him but he does everything for them. We have a large workshop he loves to putter in and our son has it occupied by his stuff (boat, truck) makes it hard to get anything done. When he asks our son to help out, son drags feet and takes forever to get anything done. Now hubby wants to sell everything out of the garage cause he can't use it anyway. His temper has me scared not cause he wud hurt me but because he might hurt himself. He just got off Paxel about a month ago and everything is going downhill. Hubby thinks our sex life, actually my sexual desire has gone away and it just continues to go down from there. I just don't know what to do at this point. We have invested a lot of time and money for our son and all of his kids but they only seem to shit on us. I am not sure this is the web sight for me as I do not wish to get a divorce. I just want to have a happy husband. To me things are not all that bad, I tend to roll pretty easy with the punches but he definitely does not. Hubby never has been that affectionate or romantic but I do know he does love me. But, will he finally get tired of me and just give up, I don't know. We do have a lot of toys and now he is talking like he wants to sell everyting. I don't think this is the answer, he says well we don't have any friends to do anything with anyway. Well I love to go boating and bike riding, I don't need friends to enjoy doing those things. Actually we do indeed have friends but he calls them people we just know, not friends. He has become easily agitated, and extremely negative about everything from A to Z. I have suggested counseling but he won't go for that. Any ideas on what cud save this man from living a miserable life. I am all ears as I do love this guy. Thanks :'( :(
Re:Desperate, Concerned Hubby Having Nerous Breakdown jason_stl: littledarland,

Propose a getaway if you can afford it. That would be my first piece of advice. It may just be that you two are going a little stir crazy. How long have you two been retired? Is he worried about the longevity of retirement? Caring for older relatives? Or is the son starting to leech into the fixed income stream you two are collecting?

Those may be some issues worth exploring, but I would get away from everything for a few days and take a vacation with your husband. If nothing else it will give you two a reason to talk about things.

Oh! By the way, congratulations on your 48t years of marriage. I bet you have some wonderful stories.