Re: things i can't just let slide.. Irony:
I don't think that's even the issue at this point Spike..
It's like "he started it"
".. .no, she started it.."
What the frig is the difference in the end?
Re: things i can't just let slide.. jadedangel: [quote author=Lumpy link=topic=29530.msg288786#msg288786 date=1148945752">
I agree with Spike here Iron. You did nothing but try to heal yourself. If she's going to take you to task for that then so be it. In the other thread someone tried to point out that none of us know her. If any character debasement occured it was totally anonymous. How can you betray someones trust to strangers? These things were written for you not her.
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[color=navy"> I think Lumpy basically summed it up ... I agree with this in the fact that ...
.... that is exactly what this place is. I doubt I could allow my ex to see half of the stuff I have written on this site ... because it is stuff I will never say to him again ... and some of it .. I'm sure he wouldn't want to see ...
It is one reason why they say couple's do not do well here ... we have seen it before and I am sure we will see it again ... Nobody does know her ... but seeing the words probably didn't help. I hope she accepts your apology, but -- she should keep in mind ... she should of half expected it when she went looking through old posts ... [/color">
Re: things i can't just let slide.. Lumpy: [quote author=iron man (formerly irony) link=topic=29530.msg288793#msg288793 date=1148946227">
I don't think that's even the issue at this point Spike..
It's like "he started it"
".. .no, she started it.."
What the frig is the difference in the end?
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That's how most of my arguments with the ex go. It's a regression to kindegarten. I hear ya Iron. It takes a big man to just apologize and move on.
Re: things i can't just let slide.. chiefkyle: Everyone says what they feel on here (atleast I think so). Why apologise? Why take it back?
Its your feelings, in writing. Its who you was at that ONE point in time, no matter how breif it was.
I'm not apologising to her (stbxw), if she reads this. I want her to KNOW how I felt at that point. Then, maybe......just maybe she will start to understand what she put me through. I might go through mood swings, and say some bad sh*t, then feel the completely oposite in 5 minutes.
Don't apologise for who you are, or what you feel. You are growing, and if you ACT like you never felt them feelings, delete your posts, never read what you said, then WHAT have you accomplished? Nothing.
Would you erase your marrage? Then why erase what is personal to YOU, your feelings, your growth, YOUR ACHIEVMENTS. If you never said what you said, you WOULDN'T be the stronger, bigger, better, person you are today.
If I never came here and wrote what I did, I wouldn't have figured anything out. When you write something, you start to figure it out. Once its on paper (web page), you can analize and re-analize it.
Am I wrong?
Re: things i can't just let slide.. Irony: I fully understand where you guys are coming from.. but the bottom line is that my words hurt her..
They were not meant for her eyes.. they were my private innermost thoughts at the lowest point in my life..
Why does life have to be so freaking complicated/
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