Re: dating sites and "the lack of chemistry thing" bluskygrl: I don't know I guess there is still something for me about "our eyes meeting across a crowded room". I have browsed the sites, laughed at a few people I know, started some profiles, but I am reluctant to complete them, post a picture or respond to their questions.....
Many people tell me this is the way for a busy, professional mom to meet people, but its like WG said - hard to get my head around it.
Sorry I am no help!
Blu
Re: dating sites and "the lack of chemistry thing" NO DATE: GOTTA BE SOMETHING LIKE THIS
the use of the term "chemistry" is not a correct term it's got to be a pseudonym for something else because how can two people hit off verbally so well {even in person} and then just feel nothing hmm you don't talk to a prospective SO for 6 hours on the phone without chemistry would you? so what does this mean [besides that I have insomnia} here's what a little soul searching bought out
when i say no chemistry I guess I really mean this
not really physically attracted enough
body language is either hard to read or guarded to be hard to read
facial Que's not familiar to you [mannerisms}
don't like the way the person moves {walks, posture or other bodily motions">
subtle things you don't find attractive {physical">
the clothes the person is wearing {taste">
class differences [uptown/downtown}
don't like the persons "vibe'' [metaphysical?">
speech pattern/ listening attentiveness not the same as on the phone vs. in person
I think these things are what's meant by "chemistry" just an amalgam of subtleties that can't be seen/heard/felt over the phone.
phew I think I can sleep now!!!
Re: dating sites and "the lack of chemistry thing" Chris: it does happen, but the ratio of those you'll have chemistry with those that you don't are going to be close to 1 in 20. i believe it is artificial for the most part and of course the best foot is put forward. you'll definitely get a better idea of the person if you met as friends and the dating potential did not exist.
Re: dating sites and "the lack of chemistry thing" jillieb44: What always gets me is that you could be 100% intellectually compatible but the other finds you less than physically attractive (ie not their 'type') when they meet you.
For me, I want more of a meeting of the minds than the meeting of the eyes.
I've dated men who are far less than my 'physical ideal' because I thought we had lots in common. We did but they broke it off. OTOH I've dated men who were my physical ideal who were a$$wipes.
Jillie, who has sworn off dating to spend time with her kids and dogs.
Re: dating sites and "the lack of chemistry thing" 2be: Well, the woman I"m dating (albeit now cautiously) seem to get along great. She is exactly who she said she was and our chemistry didn't lack going from internet to "real" life. Although, now that we're hitting the 4 month mark, there are certainly things in both of us that are starting to show up that both give us concerns.
But those things are something that would've shown up at this point regardless if we had met online or not.
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