Re: Reconciliation Update thehitekrednek: Yep, open and honest!! She says she will keep up the reassurance, and hopefully these feelings will subside.
Re: Reconciliation Update wingnut: Keep up the good work. Your feelings are important and it will take time. Chin up, knees bent, shoulders and elbows correct, and keep your eye on the ball. You will knock it out of the park. It just takes practice and time.
Again, keep up the good work.
Re: Reconciliation Update sheydp: From what I have seen on sites like survivinginfidelity.com it will take 2 1/2 - 5 years to "recover" from that kind of betrayal. Now - don't expect it to stay THIS bad as time goes on, but you are still relatively fresh to this process, it is going to take processing these emotions.
It is good you share with her, and that she understands you have to work through these things. Being held through the waves of pain and attempts at self-protection can make it easier. Plus - she now SEES the effects of what she did, something she probably didn't have to face before. The fact that she doesn't get defensive and is willing to put in the effort to stick through the tough parts (it is HARD to see pain you have caused) is a very good sign. It will take time, love, but you will get there.
Shey
Re: Reconciliation Update thehitekrednek: Thanx Wingnut, I know you are watching this unfold.
Thanx Shey, she's lucky I have you, and she doesn't even realize it yet.
Re: Reconciliation Update Redponcho: I am fairly new to your story but keep the lines of communicatin open and hopefull in time it will turn out godd for the both of you. I know what you mean about a non religious counselor. I dont want to hear about what god wants me to do and that god will give me what I need. Good luck
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