I believe my husband has OCD, but I'm not sure... dell128: We are married 1 1/2 yrs now and I noticed this problem since the 1st day we moved into our house. The house contains wood flooring and tiled kitchen. He insisted that we cannot wear our shoes in the house, including any guests that walk into the house. I was against this and still am. That was our first war, he had to get his way ofcourse because he is overly persistent and threatens to do terrible things if he doesn't get his way. Everynight that I arrive home from work he is either waxing the floors, cleaning windows, or dustbusting. After I use the bathroom he checks around the sink for water and wipes it if there is. After I shower, he runs into the bathroom and wipes down the tiles, stands up on the toilet and wipes down the ceiling. While I cook, hes between my feet picking crumbs off the floor, wipes the counter with his hands. After I'm done he gets on his hands and knees to clean the floor with Fantastik, we fight over washing dishes and cleaning the stove, he insists that he wants to do it! He gets obssessed with ideas in his head and is so attached to his parents. A few times we had really bad arguments and he called his parents asking them to help and to come over. He is disrespectful towards his parents, controls them, bullys them if he doesnt get his way.....my story can go on for days but i don't want to bore u lol. I feel nervous in my own house and around my husband, I dont feel at ease anymore and I'm always sad or on edge. I am really considering divorce but I'm scared!!! I want to have a family in the future but I'm scared to with him...please help!!
Re: I believe my husband has OCD, but I'm not sure... sheydp: Have you told him your feelings about this? Have you talked at all about counseling? Perhaps you can encourage him to go with you on the basis of you needing to deal with YOUR issues.... not mentioning that one of your basic issues is his obsessive behavior. Once there, you two will have a safe place to talk (his parents obviously don't provide that) and you can see if he can recognize his behavior, and you can learn if there is a way to minimize its effect on you. If he won't go, try it on your own. You need to feel comfortable in your own home. As for starting a family... Think about grubby messy children... does he really want that? Can he handle it?
Shey
Re: I believe my husband has OCD, but I'm not sure... Redponcho: Talk to hime and if you want to save your marriage then get counseling. Dont be scared. If my ex would have said she was unhappy I would have jumped at the chance to make everything right. I never got that chance she kept it inside. Give him a chance to help himself and the marriage.
Re: I believe my husband has OCD, but I'm not sure... chaotic: Are you married to my brother?
It may very well be OCD or something of the like. I know that I become obsessive about some things, but as soon as I realize or its pointed out, I am able to let it go or at the very least lessen its hold on me. I dont think I have OCD, but you should at least talk to him. Encourage him to get help. If you keep it inside, it will only worsen.
Re: I believe my husband has OCD, but I'm not sure... tomuchpain: In my opinion I would say that the chances of him having OCD is very high. Now with that said I just want to say that I am not a psycologist or a doctor so I am not an expert in this but I do have a B.A. in psychoogy so I have studied about this.
I think, like sheyd, that you should tell him your feelings if you haven't and then try to get him to see a psycologist or a doctor. From what you wrote in your post your husband does not seem to have a mild case of ocd but a pretty full blown one. And the only way that he is going to be able to deal with this and you for that matter to is if you both go and seek some professional help.
I say that you should go seek help too because it could help you in learning to deal with his ocd. I have ADD and when it was finally diganosed a year ago my wife and I both went together and separtly to counsiling. It really did help my wife in learning how to deal with me and my ADD.
Before you divorce or separate remember that you married this man for a reason so you should at least give him a chance to change and a chance to save the marriage before you do anything. He just might surprise you.
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