Re: I believe my husband has OCD, but I'm not sure... dell128: Yes I have tried talking to him about my feelings many many many times. It's like talking to a wall. He tells me that he cleans because hes bored, has nothing to do, and cleaning keeps him busy. We have fights about this everyday. For almost 2 years I have been asking him to not dry the dishes after I wash them because the dish towel creates lint all over the dishes, but he dries them anyway. I've also asked him not to fold and put my clothes away for me because he sticks them in any drawer and when I need a certain item, I go crazy looking for it, but he does it anyway. It's like he just can't stop! It's not just the obsession with the cleaning that's a problem. He can't break away from his parents. He calls them up atleast 5 times a day, from 7AM on. His parents complain about it to me all the time that he calls them all day long. He calls them to make sure things are done for him and to order them around. His parents have a vacation home in Florida which they go to only a few times a year. Everytime my husband hears that they are going there, he gets so angry, calls them up and gives them grief. He tells them they can't go, and will repeat over and over again "when are you coming back." The longest they've ever stayed there for is only 1 week!! Most of the time his father doesn't even go because my husband tells him not to, and will threaten him if he does. He is very disrespectful to them, and puts up a fight if he doesn't get his way. His is overly persistent and doesn't give up. He carries on about things. Your probably wondering how old my husband is...he will be 30, and acts like hes 5!!!! Is this normal behaviour or am I making a this big deal? I've been to therapy twice already. After almost 2 years, he finally agreed to go with me. I have an appointment for next week, but I honestly do not think he will change. I honestly think this is will not be a healthy home for children and he is not a father figure. We'll see what happens after counseling. I have so much to say, I can go on forever...lol
thank u all for listening, I'm really glad I found this website with great people who are willing to give advise.
Dell128
Re: I believe my husband has OCD, but I'm not sure... Redponcho: Let me tell you something ---THIS IS NOT NORMAL. There I said it. I have never seen dependancy on parents like that. If he wants it to work out he needs therapy!! Good luck girl
