I'm shocked just_me_detroit: She called me at work today during lunch and wanted to know if I would do couples counciling. I said yes. She told me it just wasn't working. I told her I noticed. She sounded like she wanted to talk. Yeah great I am sitting around work with all my coworkers just feet away and now she wants to talk. Yeah right.
Right now I could care less if we get divorced. No thats not true. I really want to get divorced. We didn't talk at all again tonight. She seemed much better though. She wasn't giving dirty looks and she talked normally to the kids. I completely avoided her though. I wouldn't look at her or talk to her.
After she went to bed I checked her planner. ( I know I shouldn't snoop but when someone won't talk to you for a year how else are supposed to find out whats going on.) I found what I was looking for. She has two print outs of couples councelors. Surprise, surprise they both have an emphathis with Gay/Lesbian issues. Could my wife finally be close to admitting it to me? Of course I already know.
The other thing thats happened is I signed up on match.com. I have no desire to date someone right now. Its just my self esteem has taken a beating. I haven't had anyone flirt with me in years. I am hoping I receive an email or two just so that I know someone finds me attractive. (No not anyone from here. I am looking for an unsoliceted flirt ;D)
Also I am no longer wearing my ring.
Re: I'm shocked Melbel: Be strong!!! You are the ONLY person that can tell if you are doing the right thing.
Thursday we finish the last piece of the paperwork and I am paying to waive the 90 day BS "cool off" period. Get to go to a class on how to be a good mom...and not hurt my x...please. Whatever gets his dead weight off my back! Then I am having a party! Most people are like what...I am celebrating the last 11+ years, I am celebrating my freedom, I am making tee shirts and plan on getting very drunk! I am great with that! You know how you feel...do what feels right!! I am!!
I LOVE the picture!! I am a picture freak!! They will help me remember my LIFE when I am old and losing my mind ;). Take lots of them! Be strong and make yourself and your kids happy!
Melissa
Re: I'm shocked chiefkyle: Congrades on taking the step of taking off your ring. Some people feel like they are "Letting their spouse down".
Your in the right to snoop. Its your house, your ball game, your field. Bet you felt bad when you was doing it though. Adrenaline rushing, wating to find something incriminating. haha
What does that mean, "two print outs of couples councelors"? Does that mean she set the appointments, or that she alread went with someone/by herself?
Re: I'm shocked hr: Melbel,
I have thought about being free today. All day as a matter of fact. Today is the first day I have smiled or laughed in 32 days. My aunt said when I am divorced she is throwing me a party to. I can't wait. 13 years, I want his dead weight off me to (were you reading my mind?). I love this free feeling. Best day so far. I bounce alot, but I like this.
Just me, hang in there. The days will get better. Listen to yourself, and you will know what is right. One morning I woke up and said no more. Told the stbxh I'm done. He said you want me to leave. It was over. (I couldn't believe that came out of my mouth, but it was to late to take back. He is a habitual cheater, in my gut I knew he was at it again. I didn't want to live that way anymore. It is a daily struggle, but for the first time I know this is right. You will know to.
Re: I'm shocked whisp: Why did you agree to counseling if you want a divorce?
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