Re: Yes I do give professional advice for a living broken_saint: newts,
my woman abandoned me, how do i make it easier to deal with that? i am doing all that i can to move on (believe me, it takes alot of my strength everyday) and all i want to do is take care of number one here but all my efforts are reduced to shit the moment i wake up in the morning.
sometimes, i have no thought in my mind of her and all that i feel is just complete sadness. on other days i wake up from dreams from some powerful memories of her and i and it ruins my day.
i do not get drunk, i've been against the whole drinking scene but i got so shit faced last month and that (believe it or not) made me realize how much of an ass she is for leaving me the way she did. (i'm drunk right now! LOL! it's the only way i can help myself deal with it right) i swear to you when i say she just left without a reason. no warning, not one hint.... i'm left with the WHY's!!!! god i hate it... any and i mean ANY HELP would be appreciated. how can someone be so heartless after nine years newts?! i havent talked to her in 3 months now! this is the girl that i was going to grow old with and this is the shit i get in return. ....
i'm left blaming myself, i have no idea what i did wrong but i wish i knew. i'm left thinking that this has alot to do with another guy. sometime i think that one day she'll realize that she'll snap out of it. she's 26, that's young and i know how lost girls can get when they fall in love but that is no excuse for how she left.
for the love of god i take PILLS! HELP!
Re: Yes I do give professional advice for a living newts: Saint, that is a orrible situation, just remember, you gave 9 years of your life to this woman and she gets up and leaves with out a word, I would have to say the biggest problem in your ex relationship that there was no communication... you might think that she left for no reason, however, I bet if you ever did get the opportunity to confront her about why she left she would have a long list of problems.
I can tell you how to move on, only you can't tell you when and why you will move on it will just happen when you allow yourself to stop punishing and beating yourself up over something that wasn't 100% percent of your fault. Why she left you is one story, the way in witch she left you is heart breaking and I could not imagine giving that much of my life to somebody and that person turn around a treat you like a stray cat that she picked up one day and took to the pound for excecution the next.
For whatever reasons she has for leaving you have to ask yourself... do I you want to be in a one sided loveless relationship or do you want to be in a relationship where your love for each other is appreciated and pure.
I know it's hard Saint, however, life does go on, and day by day you will progess... there is a light at the end of the tunnel you just need to believe.
I remember feeling the way that you did for 6 months, one morning I woke up and decided that I had had enough of being in love with someone who really didn't love me the way that I needed to be loved and that was the start (it takes a while, it doesnt just happen over night) to where I am now. Have you gone to the doctor - maybe some anti depressants might help you to get by for now.
Keep posting saint - we are all here for you.
Re: Yes I do give professional advice for a living smokin: i have a business for sale. can you help find a buyer? lmao..........kidding, *not really, but haha*
im glad you do. i do the same except i have no tollerance for cheaters, and maybe thats where i need to improve.. but, dont think it will happen soon.......
thanks newts.
Yes I do give professional advice for a living newts: People in Ojar keep asking me why I am here? I am comfortable and happy with myself and my life, however, I have not always been like this, I have had my ups and downs in relationships and have now seen the better side and I know one day I will meet the perect person for me, I will not settle for somebody who I think is close to my perfect match and I don't think I have to. I am an attractive, successful business woman and I give advice for a living - I am a management consultant who advises people from overseas setting up corporate businesses in Australia to understand our business laws, taxes, finance, business set up, establishment fees and immigration laws. I am fantastic at what I do, however, I would like to be a little more knowledgable on my gray zone and that is relationships, by me giving my advice to people who need it on this site I feel like I am helping develope a side of myself that has been so closed and unapproachable and whilst I hope I am helping people, I also feel like I am helping myself and developing my relationship social skills so when I do meet that perfect person I will have a very long lasting and extremely successful realtionship.
This is the honest answer to all those people who question why I am here, yes I am without pain and turmoil, just remember, I have been there before a few times on both the receiving and giving end and if I can do anything to help somebody to move on and feel better about themselves I would be more than happy to do so.
Re: Yes I do give professional advice for a living EssieDotCom: ;) good to know i might need some advice sometime soon, real soon ;) thanks for being here.
