"Why did Daddy leave?" yella: Of all days, I get this question today.
"Why did Daddy leave?" My answer, "We didn't get along anymore." It seems as if that has held him over, which is good because there was no way I was getting into detail today.
My ex left when T had just turned 4 (right at D's age now), and D was 9 months old. The first week he was gone, T slept in my bed. For both of our benefits. D was in his crib, and I had just stopped from nursing for the majority.
For 2 weeks, T cried every night straight, but with my steady routine, he over came that, and began to get happy again. I worked my ass off with that routine, and I take pride in it. Only on rare occasions do we falter from it.
For almost 3 years, the boys had 2 father figures... my father, and L's husband. Both they'd see on weekends. GG was the first guy I had ever introduced the boys to, and when I broke things off with him, it was tough on all of us, but I explained things the best I could. And we were all fine.
Then T came along. I brought him around because we were friends. I thought maybe this could be good... having a "safe" friend around. But safe turned into not so safe, and now I'm back trying to make a choice. My mistake, but I explained to my boys that people may come and go in our lives, but one thing remains the same. We are a team. The B team, and no one will ever break us up. No matter what happens, we will always be together.
I feel it's important for us single parents out there to remind our kids that no matter who enters our worlds, we will be the one constant. Whether we are on this planet or not, we will always be with them.
