Re:ex remarries scrdbyelmo: well im new and haven't even started to think about which of the 1000's of things i need to talk about to start with...so i'll use a story that my mentor in this nightmare told me...
I started working with my mentor and she eventually told me about her second ex(2nd to cheat on her and screw her over bad) Anyway when i met her it had been 3 years and she turned around to another section in her desk and pulled out the engagement picture of ex2 and his fiance(the one he cheated with) and said that yes it's been 3 years but just to let me know she still sporatically cries...they were engaged within 3-6 months after her divorce...that was in 2000 and in jan of 2003 he showed up at our office and took her outside to apologize and cry :'( ::) and wish her welll....she found out that the reason why he was there was because she had an affair on him and they were divorcing....this made me feel TONS better when she told me about it...maybe it will you tooo
i haven't had to deal with this situation YET but if i do i hope i can handle it...
Re:ex remarries birthday_boy: Any relationship that begins with an affair like this, sorry to say to those of you indulging, is probably doomed to fail.
At best, these are relationships that have a foundation in lying, deceit, and start off on shakey ground.
They got in through cheating and will probably get out through cheating.
As for me, when I learned of my wife's boy-toy dumping her, it was a very satisyingly smug feeling. Sure, it's bad to wish ill on others. But, c'mon. If you can't smile when those who have wronged you are bit in the buttocks, then when can you?
Anyway, don't beat yourself up over this one. Let it all go. And smile about all the nagging, arguments and heartache you don't have to put up with anymore. You are further along on the pathto freedom than most here.
Enjoy it.
-bb
