Re: Stop it!! NO DATE: sorry for long a** post
Re: Stop it!! MikeB: BB.... I know the feeling.... but you've already made a big step by saying that you don't want this... you want him out of your head... you don't want that twinge in your stomach.
It's natural that this happens... with me... it's more than nine months ago and I simply cannot stand the thought of her not missing me... or even having replaced me.... I literally feel as if I'm going to puke...
As peaceandquiet said... your life is yours now...
You are in control... Every Morning when you wake up and every night before you go to sleep... walk up to a mirror and say aloud and full of confidence "I am in control of my life"
You may feel at the mercy of your psyche.... but you can condition yourself not to be... thought-stopping techniques, self-conditioning - that's the key...
And everytime something like this happens... think about something you enjoy... someting you enjoy solely for yourself... a book, a piece of music, a poem, a TV show, a movie... whatever... let it play in your mind - let it fill you completely so there's no room for any other feeling....it helps (but you have to practice it - Oh, and if it should happen again while you're drving... leave enough room in your mind for watching the road ;))
You can do it!
Take care,
-Mike
Re: Stop it!! Phyxius: Believe me, sister, I feel your pain. The worst thing you can do, though, is focus on those mental images you're having. Letting go is a true bitch, and I'm not all that sure I'm qualified to give advice on it, since I'm four and a half years on the other side of my divorce and still haven't been able to let go yet. ::)
What I can say at this point is the sooner you are able to, the better off you'll be... ;)
Phyx
Re: Stop it!! EssieDotCom: (((HUGS))) I think about this what if a lot when it comes to my STBX. I still honestly love him and it eats and me but for now I'll pretend it doesn't. I can't say I've been in these circumstances before but I'm here if you need to talk.
Re: Stop it!! brokenbaby: Thank you guys so much for your replies. I've put a rubberband around my wrist and every time I start to think about it I snap it.
I am determined to take my life back and take charge. This has been the hardest area for me.
Thank you for sharing your story No Date. It is nice to know I'm not the only one who had to go out of the way to go shopping. ;)
I know the information is useless to me. I am out of the circle of friends that know him. This is the only contact/knowledge I have of him is when I see him around. I wont ask questions because I know it wont help me.
I'm hoping the more it happens the less it will hurt but I am doubtful.
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