So I went and did it... chaotic: I went out the past couple of nights and took myself out.
Friday night, I decided to go out by myself. I went to a local sushi bar and ate dinner. After that I went down town and went to a little martini bar. I sat there for a couple hours enjoying a glass of wine.
Saturday night, I just went down to the same martini bar and hung out. I Had a couple glasses of wine. A couple ladies came in and there were no more tables. I invited them to sit with me for a bit, but just after they sat down, the waiter pointed out another table that just opened up. I was just about to offer to buy them a drink (dang!!! Missed my chance there). Then I walked around downtown for a bit to sober up before going home. There were a couple ladies talking at an outside bar (I made eye contact and smiled at one) she pointed in my direction and said something to her friend. So I figured I had food on my face or something. I thought about going into the bar and offering a drink. Still could not bring myself to try.
So that was 2 missed opportunities within as many hours. Whats the secret?
By the way...Shocked, Sorry I did not make it up to see you and Kev saturday. I was trying to get used to going out by myself. Did you have a good time?
Re: So I went and did it... audi_driver: [quote author=chaotic link=topic=30038.msg296293#msg296293 date=1150081960">
I went out the past couple of nights and took myself out.
Friday night, I decided to go out by myself. I went to a local sushi bar and ate dinner. After that I went down town and went to a little martini bar. I sat there for a couple hours enjoying a glass of wine.
Saturday night, I just went down to the same martini bar and hung out. I Had a couple glasses of wine. A couple ladies came in and there were no more tables. I invited them to sit with me for a bit, but just after they sat down, the waiter pointed out another table that just opened up. I was just about to offer to buy them a drink (dang!!! Missed my chance there). Then I walked around downtown for a bit to sober up before going home. There were a couple ladies talking at an outside bar (I made eye contact and smiled at one) she pointed in my direction and said something to her friend. So I figured I had food on my face or something. I thought about going into the bar and offering a drink. Still could not bring myself to try.
So that was 2 missed opportunities within as many hours. Whats the secret?
By the way...Shocked, Sorry I did not make it up to see you and Kev saturday. I was trying to get used to going out by myself. Did you have a good time?
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Eating sushi in Manhattan is my favorite thing to do alone. I go to the same place I have been going to for 7 years. They all know me and I have a great time.
About 6 weeks ago I went to the same bar I used to go to in the city when I was single. Stopped going when I got married. The same owner was there. Had a great time and he introduced me to a bartender who I drove home......On the way home, three girls on three different street corners were smiling at me. One of them even asked me for a light and started talking.....
I think it just has to do with confidence. I typically have a ton of it and smile a lot when I am drunk.
Re: So I went and did it... Melbel: Yes, you have to have confidence. I think you should focus less on the missed opportunites but rather being damn proud of yourself for going out! Think of how awesome that was for you and how now the next time it will be less scary! I am so happy for you!
Melissa
Re: So I went and did it... audi_driver: I used to always try and pick on up every night I was out. That way I would never miss an opportunity. If you make it into something fun, it will be a lot easier to approach.
In between my girlfriend of 4 years and my wife of 5 years, I had about 25+ dates with different women in 6 months.
Someone once told me something that I will never forget......When you start a new job, new relationship or anything new, you have a chance to reinvent yourself. No one knows the previous you. You ca nbe anything you want to be. Just be the guy who wants to find Mrs. Right and in order to do so, you need to date as many women as possible....hence APPROACHING THEM.
You do the best you can and strive to be better at everything you do everyday.
Re: So I went and did it... chaotic: It was kind of cool going out alone. Mel, you are correct, it wont be as scary next time. I am actually trying to think of something else to do this weekend. There are a couple martini bars in the same area. I may try one of those. I would like to find a wine bar instead though (not really into martinis).
What else have people gone out alone to do?
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