Confused and hurt . .. drowning. . .: I just spoke to him on the phone yesterday and he said he's not doing well at all either. He seems to be genuinely distraught. He said that he's broken down in tears at work and in other random places. . . I don't really get it. Our breakup was mutual but yet he seems to be on the fence a little bit. But he definitely won't go as far to say that he wants to get back together either. I don't know. . . What does that mean? He just seems to be determined to get over me. . . It hurts! I wish this fog would go away! I wish this burning in my chest would go away!
Re: Confused and hurt . .. sheydp: Do YOU want to reconcile? Why did you break up? Was it mutual, and if so, why did YOU want to? I am sorry for your pain...
Shey
Re: Confused and hurt . .. ctrlaltdelete: Breaking up is hard. The first few weeks / months, etc. are really unstable and you question things a lot. If it is something you are sure of, pick up and move on. It will eventually get better. Think of why you broke up in the first place - will that be resolved if you get back together or is it just easier to get back together than to be apart? Consider and answer that last one honestly.
Re: Confused and hurt . .. newts: Drowning,
Just because you mutual broke up it doesn't mean that the feelings will vanish. Any break up is hard whether it's mutual or the dumper or the dumpee... it's just dam so hard to switch off the memories, feeling and the comfortable feelings of a close intimate relationship.
He hasn't made any comments on wanting to get back together because obviously he realises that even though it's probably the hardest thing you have both down, it was obviously the right thing to do for both of your futures.
