Ah, there it is.... Plucky: ...all of the doubt and fear that usually follows my happiness. How in the heck do I get rid of all of that crap? I've found a fantastic guy who's crazy about me and all I can do is wonder if he's being sincere or if the bottom's going to fall out soon. Thankfully, I'm able to keep all of that crap to myself so I'm not driving him crazy too, but I wish I could just let it go. Logically, I know everything's fine. Maybe I don't WANT to be happy? WTF is wrong with me?
Re: Ah, there it is.... Peaceandquiet: When you have fallen thru the ice once.. or maybe twice ;) you tend to be a little more cautious the next time you venture out.. You put more layers on in case it does happen again and it takes longer to get through them.. and only when you have tested all area of the ice will you feel safe enough to skate again. Don't feel bad that your being a little protective of yourself.. its what any smart person would do. Just my take on it for what its worth.
Re: Ah, there it is.... thehitekrednek: You need to get it out, Hun. Vent it here, thats the best I can come up with, I'm pretty much in the same place as you.
Re: Ah, there it is.... Chris: i'm sure that feeling has to be nauseating, but are you OK with being by yourself? do you feel that you need this relationship or do you see it as a compliment to who you are inside?
putting pressure on a relationship "not to fail", sometimes is a sign that that person is not OK with life without a partner. sure, i'm sure most of us ideally don't want to be alone and would take that only as a last resort, but i think it really helps to not put a lot of weight on the relationship defining who you are.
maybe once you're able to accomplish that, you will enjoy the relationship in the present and not put too much into the future. gain that confidence that you are worthy of the attention and that will show through to the person you are with and he will have more respect of your feelings and your time.
Re: Ah, there it is.... Melbel: I think we all want happiness! I think we are all waiting for someone else to hurt us, to let us down and to walk away. I think it is all very normal and you will be fine. Take it nice and slow and let him know how you are feeling maybe he can reassure you that for right now things are really good for both of you! Take care!
Melissa
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