Re: Ah, there it is.... superwife: [quote author=Plucky link=topic=30051.msg296370#msg296370 date=1150118751">
...all of the doubt and fear that usually follows my happiness. How in the heck do I get rid of all of that crap? I've found a fantastic guy who's crazy about me and all I can do is wonder if he's being sincere or if the bottom's going to fall out soon. Thankfully, I'm able to keep all of that crap to myself so I'm not driving him crazy too, but I wish I could just let it go. Logically, I know everything's fine. Maybe I don't WANT to be happy? WTF is wrong with me?
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I hear ya, plucky. I can't help but feel like that too. I've been told it is going to sabotage my relationships. But I have trust issue. Can you blame me??
I've actually been told 'I think you like being unhappy'. This was by my ex bf, who now, BTW, is not very happy without me :-\. Oh well.
Re: Ah, there it is.... fkunone: [quote author=Plucky link=topic=30051.msg296370#msg296370 date=1150118751">
...all of the doubt and fear that usually follows my happiness. How in the heck do I get rid of all of that crap? I've found a fantastic guy who's crazy about me and all I can do is wonder if he's being sincere or if the bottom's going to fall out soon. Thankfully, I'm able to keep all of that crap to myself so I'm not driving him crazy too, but I wish I could just let it go. Logically, I know everything's fine. Maybe I don't WANT to be happy? WTF is wrong with me?
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Everybody has doubt and fear that usually follows happiness, no? Like when someone buys a new car (kill me on this analogy later, k? I'm the Juggernaut.), you often wonder if you got a good deal, is this car going to be OK, what if it's not all it's crapped up to be....
This is a natural phase until you are assured, despite your past. Like when you drive the car really hard around the corner and you don't flip over. Now you know you have a decent car. But you want to keep kicking the tires.
So kick the tires because you do want to be happy. I mean, really, who does NOT really want to be happy? So get that crazy thought out of your head.
Just so you know, there's nothing wrong with you. This is natural.
Roll with it.
And slam the doors a few more times, eh?
Re: Ah, there it is.... Plucky: Nope BR, not being sarcastic this time. Things are really going great and I've let go of my worries. Once I decided to do that, things got very clear.
:-)
Re: Ah, there it is.... superwife: [quote author=Plucky link=topic=30051.msg297504#msg297504 date=1150291867">
Nope BR, not being sarcastic this time. Things are really going great and I've let go of my worries. Once I decided to do that, things got very clear.
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Good for you. Hold on to that feeling. It is better than feeling unhappy and uncertain.
Re: Ah, there it is.... Plucky: Too right, SW. By worrying so much, I was putting unneccessary pressure on both of us - intentional or not. I don't have a crystal ball, but I feel like I'll be okay with this one.
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