Resisting... Chris: the urge to date because of the possible outcomes.
i enjoy getting to know different people and share good times, but i don't want the dating to turn into anything long-term (at least for now). how do you prevent the transformation of casual-dating into something more serious? you either meet someone that you have to fight the urge not to pursue something or face the hurt feelings from the other person wanting something more.
Re: Resisting... Goddess: [quote author=BR493 link=topic=30058.msg296424#msg296424 date=1150122954">
the urge to date because of the possible outcomes.
i enjoy getting to know different people and share good times, but i don't want the dating to turn into anything long-term (at least for now). how do you prevent the transformation of casual-dating into something more serious? you either meet someone that you have to fight the urge not to pursue something or face the hurt feelings from the other person wanting something more.
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Do you fight the urge to pursue it because you are afraid the other person will want more?... I think the only answer here is to just be upfront from the get-go.. Let the lady know you are not looking for anything more than casual dating.. and I know there are some women out there that say.."OK!" yet end up acting hurt when you decide to break it off and pursue other people..but I suppose thats the chance you have to take in the dating world. ::)
Just be honest... thats my 2 cents for ya ;)
Goddess
Re: Resisting... ctrlaltdelete: Well, I know it is possible, because my X is a serial dater and never seems to get roped into a relationship. Maybe I should give you his number - he's become somewhat of an expert in "date-and-run" ;D
Seriously, though, go out and have fun w/ no expectations and if you sense the woman wants to go further, just be honest up front. It saves a lot of pain in the future.
Re: Resisting... charlee: i agree with justmenow...go out, have fun, if you get the feeling she's wanting more be up front. there are plenty of females out there that want the same thing you do!!
i've been in the same boat...can't seem to find guys to hang out with that dont' want to just get in my pants. lol maybe i'm looking in the wrong places.
Re: Resisting... superwife: [quote author=BR493 link=topic=30058.msg296424#msg296424 date=1150122954">
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Me too, but I keep trying. My fear is the outcome will not be good. But for different reasons. Does that make sense??
[quote"> i enjoy getting to know different people and share good times, but i don't want the dating to turn into anything long-term (at least for now). how do you prevent the transformation of casual-dating into something more serious? you either meet someone that you have to fight the urge not to pursue something or face the hurt feelings from the other person wanting something more.
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Just be honest in what yu are looking for. nothing serious, just whatever comes your way. Beleive it or not, there may be some girls who are looking for what you are.
Just take it day by day. Do as i say, not as I do ;)
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