Anniversary Crazylife: How do you deal with a day that used to mean something but now seems like a sham? I am talking about a wedding anniversary. Whether you are still in the relationship or out of it.
I wish the day would just go away. The thought of celebrating my anniversary makes me want to throw up. And to actually get Happy Anniversary gifts and well wishes from people seems, well, like a joke. I received some flowers from my in-laws of all people and threw them out. I couldn't stand to look at them. Childish? Maybe, but I just can't deal with that. It brings back too many ugly memories.
Re: Anniversary EssieDotCom: this last one was hard, it was the first one the Dh and I had been officaly seperated. I cried, I screamed, I went off on him for forgetting.......yeah i did. But i also had friends here at Ojar to support me. I needed a super big hug........ My in laws anniversary is also our anniversary, so it was tough. Never got any flowers or anything. Just more heartache from him. For me celibrating an anniversary was never wonderful, not with him, it was never a big deal. but now my idea of celibration is cutting apart a pic of him and burning it with a lighter ;) or something of that nature that makes you FEEL GOOOOOOOD! (((HUGS)))
Re: Anniversary Crazylife: Thanks for the hugs EQ. I just feel so stuped for giving him another chance right now. A year ago I made him an anniversary photo album and poem and he loved it. Today, I just don't have it in me. I'm not over the cheating. Who knew that in the space of one year my entire life would change. What ever happened to people actualy taking marriage vows to heart? I did. It never even crossed my mind to cheat. Today I feel like he destroyed a part of me that I may never get back.
Re: Anniversary Feel: You think you can plan something very special that day, maybe ask a guy out on that day and make it that date for a new occasion??
Or just make one day out of the year a sobbing one a choose that day to cry and hate him! lol
Leave all the other 364 days out for a fun time!
Re: Anniversary Crazylife: You know.......for some reason I've had a slight change of heart on this and I have no idea. My husband wants to take me out to dinner. Yesterday I laughed in his face when he offered and told him that it was a joke after what he did. Now, however, I think I may take him up on it. If I had not married the creep I would not have my daughter and for that I'm thankful. Plus we have had some good times in the marriage, hasn't been all that bad......
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