End of My Rope startingover: I have tried everything to get my daughter to get her room cleaned and keep it clean. It's a never ending battle with no winner and I don't know what to do now. I've promised her rewards if she can keep it picked up for a week, she makes an honest effort, but by the end of the week it is a pig sty again.
I'm not talking clutter and things just need to be put away. I am talking a disgustingly gross mess to the point her room smells if I don't go in and pick up. I don't know where she got this behavior is ok as I have never lived like this. I keep a clean house
I've tried helping her, but she doesn't want my help. She has lost her allowance, games, and other privileges. I just don't know what to. Tonight I lost my cool about it and yelled at her. Now I feel aweful.
Re: End of My Rope Peaceandquiet: Don't ya just being a parent ;D My son can be the same way at times.. what I do is walk up the stairs with a trash bag. tell him what ever is not clean goes into the bag.. including video games.. anything that is out of place. Never really thrown anything away but it gets his but movin LOL.
And if you didn't feel bad about yelling at your kids you wouldn't be a good parent ;)
Re: End of My Rope timetobefree: I always, always had a messy room as a child. It never got dirty and smelly, but there were always clothes, shoes, junk everywhere. Honestly, NOTHING my parents did helped. They bought me all kinds of organizers, grounded me, everything.
Unfortunately, nothing helped until I moved out on my own. My house now is clean and organized for the most part. Not perfect (we have 3 cats so fur is always a battle), but it is clean and organized and things are put away.
I don't have any answers for you. Would she end up getting disgusted if you didn't go clean it? Maybe don't do laundry for her? Make her do her own?
Sorry...I really wish I could help!
Amy, whose grandma used to call Jackie Onasis because there were always clothes everywhere!
Re: End of My Rope jillieb44: How old is she?
I used to just go in and clean it. Anything I thought might be special (to her, like a rock or something) I'd set aside. Obvious trash got tossed.
Now she's 11 and her room is spotless.
My son is young still and his room is a junkyard for hot wheels cars. I just go in and clean it when it gets beyond my comfort zone. I assume someday, too, he'll want it organized the way he wants it and will do it.
Otherwise, just close the door.
Pick your battles...and for me there are other issues worth fighting over.
Jillie
Re: End of My Rope wendieann: [quote author=timetobefree link=topic=30083.msg297102#msg297102 date=1150213573">
I always, always had a messy room as a child. It never got dirty and smelly, but there were always clothes, shoes, junk everywhere. Honestly, NOTHING my parents did helped. They bought me all kinds of organizers, grounded me, everything.
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My room still is!!! :o
I guess, I believe that your bedroom is your private area. I don't go into my kids rooms at all... Now, if it was starting to smell, I would try to discourage food from going in there..etc. :-\ Perhaps, do some research on "bed bugs", etc... that "could" be crawling around in her room and sit her down and show her, what she "could" be carrying on her body/clothes/etc.... :P Borrow a microscope and go and scrape something off her bed, dirty bowls, etc... and see the bugs... (very tiny, so make sure you "find them" first...to "prove" they are there...)
Disorganised...fine...
Dirty...not acceptable.
If all all fails, go in her room, pack EVERYTHING UP, games, toys, etc...and "throw out"...or throw it out...? ;)
That's all my suggestion. Heaven forbit anyone walking into my room... ::)
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