Re: Working things out newts: I suppose it's up to the individual, for me unless the issues that seperated you in the first place have changed for the better or a compromise has been made and kept I can't imagine things being any different than the first time around, unfortunately we always slip back into that comfort zone and the old habbits slowly creep back in.
Re: Working things out lostindoubt: It seems like for the 7 months that we have been separated, we have been going back and forth... I am the one who left, I have been going to therapy during those months to work on my issues and I tried to go back to my husband, but it seems like when I try to work things out, and suggest potential solutions, he rejects everything... then when I pull back, he runs after me and tells me that things will be ok... But how?
Re: Working things out MikeB: Have you tried telling him that the only chance you have for making things work is when he also puts some effort into it... ?
You gave him a second chance, so he better live up to it...
Re: Working things out lostindoubt: I have given him more than a second chance, I dont understand why he is acting like this...he takes no responsibility in the failing of our marriage and even though I have told him the reasons for my unhappiness over and over again, he still does not understand them... and acts like evertyhing was fine and we didnt have any problems... Everything is my fault.
Re: Working things out newts: Look for the red flags, there are major red flags here.
The only way a relationship can be salvaged after a split is that 2 people are giving 200% doesn't sound like your ex is even giving 1%.
Time to move on, your the one that has made progress by trying to make yourself into a better person and your going to be the one that will find that better person and move on to a happier more fulfilling relationship.
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