Taking a Step Back twetifb: I guess this is more of a vent than anything else but it has to do with dating so I thought I’d post it here.
I’ve been seeing this guy, C, for 3 months. We’re casual in the sense that we’re not exclusive and we have not defined our relationship as anything other than dating but at the same time we’ve developed feelings for each other. The plus is that we’re both just enjoying our time together. We’re not making plans for the future but we’re not necessarily excluding each other either. We also seem to have not dated anyone else because of the feelings we’re developing even while we try to keep it somewhat casual. Over this past month, we’ve exchanged keys to each others’ homes and we started making the late night call or text to say goodnight each night. We still have yet to meet each others’ friends or family because we both feel that’s just a little too relationship like. We try to see each other a couple times a week but it depends on his traveling schedule. This past weekend we spent three nights in a row together which was a first for us since we never seem to have a weekend to spend together due to his traveling, his son, or my plans and it was great. Before he left Monday morning to catch a flight, I pulled out the calendar to get his updated schedule for the rest of the month and realized I’ll barely see him till July. He’s gone this week/weekend, next week I’m taking a long weekend away with my girlfriends, and then he leaves for 8 day vacation with his son the day I get back…that puts us to July 4th. I’m sure we’ll squeeze in a weeknight or two next week but it sucks!!! I feel like I’m in a long distance relationship and the guy only lives 30 mins from my house!!
So last night I called him because after a talk with a friend, I realized that we’ve got to take a step back to this being a little more casual. We’ve discussed not being exclusive in the past but I called to tell him that I want to start dating others in order to keep from getting too involved with him. We ended up having a long talk and we decided on some “rules” to go with dating other people. All in all, it was a great talk. I have my first date with someone new this Friday night for a friend’s engagement party so that should be interesting. (Amy, don’t laugh but I called that guy Vito from Friday night and asked him...I’m breaking my own rules with this one!)
Re: Taking a Step Back Chris: sounds like a great plan of action. a lot of will-power and understand, but that's awesome that i could be agreed upon.
Re: Taking a Step Back timetobefree: OMG!!!! VITO! Oh, I can't wait to hear this one! I am dying here! ;D ;D ;D
It's hard to stop yourself from developing feelings and jumping right into something serious, but I think you are doing the right thing, because his work schedule isn't going to change any time soon. You've got to decide if you can deal with that long term, and that's a lot to take on.
You're so independent that I can see you being happy in a relationship like this. But I also know that no matter how independent a person is, it's difficult to have the one you really care about away from you for long periods of time. It's a tough call...
Ultimately, I think going out with other people is going to do one of two things:
1. Make you realize how much you like/care about C and help you decide that the travel is worth overcoming to get serious about him.
OR
2. Make you realize that other people can make you just as happy as C does yet they don't have the complicated schedule that makes everything so difficult.
OK, so you totally have to take a pic of Vito for me! At least a phone pic...sneak one, please?????
Amy
Re: Taking a Step Back yella: You have courage, Girl. Kudos to you for doing that!
I admire you.
Re: Taking a Step Back twetifb: [quote author=timetobefree link=topic=30098.msg297094#msg297094 date=1150212812">
OMG!!!! VITO! Oh, I can't wait to hear this one! I am dying here! ;D ;D ;D
OK, so you totally have to take a pic of Vito for me! At least a phone pic...sneak one, please?
Amy
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I promise to take a pic of us Fri night! I still can't believe I asked him out. He was a little surprised to hear from me and I had to explain the situation between my stbx and I since I made that slip up Fri night. Well, this is my first date with a dago since I was 13...wish me luck!! ;D
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