this ex crap!!!! smokin: you know, as i sit here, my feathers get ruffled, about once or twice a month now. i see a growing trend, that both sides of the divorced people are ending up here, which is good.. and BAD. so even though this isnt pin pointed at anyone, here is what i suggest people do, when encountering their ex on here. and hopefully michael will say "yaa" or "naayy" to it. if its bad, i can revise it.
so, if you find out your ex is on here, through whatever means you use, i suggest you ask michael to trace the isp number, to make sure first. then it should go like this. unfortuantely, someone HAS to lose out, cause this is sure disruptive sometimes.
1- you ask michael to verfiy (only after you are 2999% sure its you ex. michael doesnt have time for games)
2- see who registered first, and if both parties cant control their posts, and angers toward the other, then boot whoever came last. but if they can avoid, and not respond to each other, let em stay.
3- one COULD always enroll into OJAR PREMIUM, where your thoughts wouldnt be seen by the other....
this ex coming on here, as ojar grows larger is often a losing battle. any and all ex's should stay and be annonymous, therefore, noone gets the boot.
just my thoughts on this growing battle. theres always so many sides to a story, and noone can deal with the battling back and forth, that may take place..
take this with a grain of salt........ and some tekillya..........lol
Re: this ex crap!!!! fkunone: goose - I like this solution, but wouldn't it be just as easy as say, if it's an argument b/n the two, etiquette could dictate that they PM or carry on their contention elsewhere?
And if they are both being mean to each other, relentlessly out in "public", then disable their accounts for a week....?
Re: this ex crap!!!! smokin: disabling the account for a week, seems like a good deal also.
but, the email thing, just gives each other a way to slam each other. the thing is, cutting the work out for michael. cause when this happens, im sure he gets lots of pms, bitching at him, or about the other.
so then, an alternate solution, as you state, could be this (if its possible to do)
1- each party DOES NOT post on the others.
2- they have their account suspended for a week, for doing whatever in public.
3- next violation, they are gone.........
alot of these parties oust themselves. i would never have guessed, that the last 3 sets of couples were together. maybe thats the dumb part. lol......
most of them, if they dont say anything, noone would know, im assuming...
any other ideas? good one.
Re: this ex crap!!!! fkunone: [quote author=goosetapeman link=topic=30103.msg297134#msg297134 date=1150217375">
the email thing, just gives each other a way to slam each other.
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I just figure they're not doing it too often here, because it's a private type of fight.
But I also find out that the culture works it out in a way that they leave and may come back or they just leave each other alone.
Re: this ex crap!!!! Chris: i had an ex-gf start posting here last year and now we are great friends, but i never did bring it up that i notice she was on ojar. when we meet for dinner every now and then, i want to bring it up, but decide to leave well enough alone. i know that we wouldn't argue about it, but it just might be weird.
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