Re:The Evidence.... UGH. Katie Wesley: It makes me mad for you just reading about it! I don't have any "physical" evidence, just old pictures of when we were all out together. My ex's wh*re was my f*cking best friend!
Looking back through the pictures, I found way too many of just him and her together with their arms around each other, too many coincidental disappearances of them and too many suspicious feelings that I brushed away. So, I got rid of about 9 years worth of pictures. I put them in separate boxes along with almost everything that either one of them got me and delivered them personally to their front door steps. I don't regret it. I know that keeping something around to remind you of what an ass your ex is can be helpful when doubting any decisions.
However, holding on to painful memories for too long only feeds the power that they have over you. Do you think they (in your case "he") longingly look at pictures? Do they/he longingly look at heartfelt love letters? As much as it hurts to admit, the answer is most likely: no. It kills me that either one or both of my a-holes have been in nearly every picture and every memory that I hold, but I can't let them have any power over my emotions. I have to claim my actions, decisions, and outcome from this terrible situation.
If you don't need them for court or divorce settlements, throw them away. Burn them if you want, or send them to your ex. If you're far removed from your ex and the situation, I wouldn't mail them, because that just draws out any drama that makes their affair more exciting. If you're still in the middle of all of it, leave them on his car with a nice little note. It could make you feel better.
What you do with the evidence is up to you and depends on your situation. Don't give him any satisfaction from it, though. Do what you need to to start moving toward recovery -whatever that is.
I wish you the best. And, now I'm going to go smoke a cigarette because it makes me so mad to hear about what havoc cheating low-lives reek on those of us who have done nothing but give and give.
F*ck him, f*ck her -in some way or another, what comes around goes around.
Sorry, I know I haven't been calming. Maybe it will help to know that we're out here mad and going through the same things. Live to be happy- :).
Re:The Evidence.... UGH. AlexInVirginia: I have pictures of my wife's lover naked, touching himself, and ejaculating all over himself. Also, she sent him pictures of herself masturbating too.
That's how I found out about their affair. I saw the pictures of him and confronted her about them.
So, those are the images I have to remember for the rest of my life.
Re:The Evidence.... UGH. barelybreathing: Alex, I am so sorry.
No one should have to see images like that.
Sigh. (big sigh, again.)
God almighty. What is wrong with people!?
BB
Re:The Evidence.... UGH. seth: Oh my God. That's absolutely disgusting. Too bad you can't send those pictures to where he works or something! How does that turn a woman on?
