My irrational s2bx's periodic jerk outbreak incoherentlonghorn: I am simply frustrated with anticipating reasonable behavior from an irrational person; so here is my effort to be positive. Today I was reminded of exactly what my life was like when living with my controlling, insensitive, a lot of the time jerk of a husband and life is incomparably enhanced. Now I only have to deal with this behavior a minute portion of my life, not continuously…
Today at my son’s Pre K-4 graduation my s2bx:
1. Ridiculed the way our sons shirt was tucked in
2. Was dissatisfied with our sons tie
3. Sported his new digital camera and rims (who gets to pay half?!?!?...me)...this clearly follows a couple of thousand dollars he's blown recently
4. Ignored me (this was somewhat mutual, but a tad heavy on his side)
5. Tried to separate our son from my family at picture time
6. Let our son tell him what to do
7. Refused to disclose who would be watching our son this summer…then after my persistent inquiries revealed that the s2bx’s 15 year old, multi boyfriend, rebellious child will be living with him and watching our son (did you know I have no right to know who he has watching our son, silly me)
8. Told me that my childcare would end 1.5 weeks early without actually verifying it first…I said did you ask but this turned out to be yet another infamous assumption made on his behalf without any validity
9. When I asked him to stop arguing with me in front of the kiddo he said NO (this clearly violates the temporary orders)
10. Demanded that I tell him right now which school our son will attend in August because that’s really necessary right now…we have had this discussion three times in about three weeks…he was just picking a fight
I didn’t want to expose our child to any unnecessary conflict so I was trying to be nice to change the mood…I was clearly being bulldozed so the end result was…
1. I offered to get him cake…he asked for vanilla…I came back with lemon and chocolate (no vanilla)…he wants my chocolate cake and is insufferable so I gave it to him…ate the lemon (I hate lemon cake) because I was not going to let him get to me
He…
2. Continued to keep my son distant from me
3. Finished all my sentences for me because I’m clearly NOT capable at 26 of this (notice the facetious undertone)
4. Told me to hold the trophy, diploma, cameras, gown, hat, fiesta clothes, and programs while I was trying to eat a second piece of cake (chocolate). When I asked why his hands were empty he said it was my responsibility to take care of the kiddos things because he was coming home with me!!! (did you know slavery is still rampant!)
There is no solution…I married an irrational person who’s goal is to make my life miserable.
1. to take my job
2. to keep me unemployed
3. to hurt me by any means possible
*this is clearly his intent, he by no means has unlimited control over me...screw him
Tis a moot point to argue…just needed to vent. In the long run his life will clearly not be comparable to mine because he is unhappy with life and trying to medicate his heart by hurting others. It is a shame and like I said nine months ago…I wish he would just grow up.
Re:My irrational s2bx's periodic jerk outbreak JustMe: Lone Longhorn,
I don't know if you want replies, but he sounds like doesn't consider your feelings (and that's putting it lightly). He also sounds controlling and little spoiled.
My stbx wife is like that, so I can relate to what you were posting. Different situations, same behavior.
Re:My irrational s2bx's periodic jerk outbreak justmenow: This only serves to remind you that you did the right thing.
On the bright side...
1. Lemon cake is healthier than chocolate cake, right? Maybe he'll keel over one of these days because of his indulgence...
2. You get to carry all the stuff b/c your son is going home with you. Thank God. Who would want your son to be with such a control-freak, insecure jerk? At least you'll be able to raise him right.
3. Good for you for trying to keep the peace.
One of these days he will just be a bad memory.
Re:My irrational s2bx's periodic jerk outbreak picadilly: Hang in there LL, he'll grow up sooner or later. Hopefully sooner then later, but you never know, some people need a truck to fall on their heads to think straight. When he comes to his senses, it'll be too late since he's burned all his bridges.
Keep the faith.
Re:My irrational s2bx's periodic jerk outbreak Luv2drive85: My soon to be ex is controlling and immature too. He needs a mommy sometimes (at 37yrs old!!) and Im tired of being one to him. One minute he is Mr. Know-it-all control freak, and the next he doesnt know how to do the simplest thing....but I think THAT is yet another excuse of his to keep the communication going between us.
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