Jelousy Blue99: HELPPPPP!!!!I am a new-be and I feel confused. I asked for the divorce got it and now saw my X on a date walking out of a restaurant and kissed a girl by his car. I have been seeing someone who is recently divorced too. It may be cuz my X always said he would do anything to be with me again and maybe the thought of losing that backup is too much. Why do I feel jelous? Has anyone went through this.
Blue today
Re:Jelousy justmenow: So, you're seeing someone yet you still care what your ex is doing? Maybe you're not quite ready to be dating yet...
You will get to a point where you won't care what your ex does. Heck, I wouldn't care if I saw my ex out with an entire cheerleading team (I wouldn't put it past him either, considering his immature frat-boy lifestyle now) because I am through with caring about that. It's not my problem anymore. You need to realize it's not your problem anymore. Pay attention to your own life because it's the only thing you have complete control over now...and reconsider dating for the time being, until you have healed from the divorce or you're just asking for more relationship trouble.
Trust me. I know from experience.
Re:Jelousy CYTOTOXIC: ???i think the same way maybe you should really stop and see what you are really feeling before jumping into a new relationship.. Blue99
Re:Jelousy newandconfused: Wow-- I've been visiting this board for a while now...since Jan, I think...but today I think one piece of advice really hit home with me: "So, you're seeing someone yet you still care what your ex is doing? Maybe you're not quite ready to be dating yet..."
Yeah, that is the truth...I am recently divorced (10 days now) and recently found out he started dating...and I'm crushed. I am just so jealous! It's very obvious I am no where NEAR being ready to date again...(truth be told, I want him back in some ways, but at the same time I know the divorce was for the best...)
Anyway, my point is this: thank you for such wonderful, clear advice. It seems true: if you still have those feelings about your ex, you're not ready to commit to someone else--at least fully and completely. And I know for me, when I get involved again, I want to do it right.
So, Blue, I think this is right on. What do you think?
