Re:Sharing Atty's ChrisJane: If contested both parties need their own attorney.
If your stbx isn't contesting anything then let them reimburse you for part of your legal fees! Do a simple dissolution and be done with it.
But if for some reason you have to go back to court in the future your attorney will fight for you. Your attorney will make it known to your ex that he/she is retained by you, he/she is working for you and will do what is necessary to take care of you.
Re:Sharing Atty's Safetykc: If you have a good attorney CJ...
Some attorney's stink...
:P
Re:Sharing Atty's ChrisJane: True! Luckily I have a great attorney. He attempts to cool me down, but knows if the judge asks my opinon I speak up. He likes that!
Re:Sharing Atty's cloud: A friend of mine and his s2bx used his lawyer solely and while it helps cut down costs it depends on whether or not you've resolved all the issues between you and your spouse regarding property, custody, etc.
The other thing I learned is that most lawyers will only represent one person and not both. That's because the lawyer cannot safely defend/counsel you on what's best for your interests and do the same for your spouse. Conflict of interests, right?
There's a lot of emotion between two spouses working out a divorce and stress, and it can easily spiral into mistrust and accusations on issues if the lawyer advises one of the spouses to take a specific stand that the other spouse is against.
If anything, the spouse without a lawyer should at the least have a lawyer review the final decree to ensure that nothing is getting sneaked past. And the spouse without a lawyer should try and learn as much about his/her rights as well. Trust but verify, right?
Hope this post is helpful.
Cloud!
Re:Sharing Atty's pkb1300: A coworker of mine told me about his divorce when he heard I was going through one. He said that he and his x had decided to share a lawyer and in the end, he wound up royally scr**ed and she came out way ahead. He advised me not to do it. As it turned out in my case it wasn't needed (my x moved to VA and didn't contest anything). Not to mention my lawyer said absolutely not when I asked what if my x wanted to share. My lawyer said he would never advise it for anyone under any circumstance. I wish you the best of luck whatever you decide with the lawyer.
PKB
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