Entire 20s... seth: We never actually married but we lived together for more than six years and had an eight-year friendship--I first met her when nine years ago in college when I was 20 and now I'm about to hit 29.
We lived in three different states and five different apartments together and promised each other we'd spend the rest of our lives together. I worked full-time and attended grad. school on weekends while she went to grad. school full-time. She took me for at least $10,000, our five year-old dog, mutual friends, and the car--which was in her name. When I tried to discuss getting some of my money back, she dragged into court for a temporary restraining order.
If I try to sue her, she'll press federal felony charges against me because I sent her emails threatening to send x-rated pictures of her out if I didn't get some of my money--it was 3:30 in the morning and was an error in judgement, to say the least. She brought a friend w/ her to court, who stroked her arm as if to say, "poor baby, don't be afraid." When the friend left to go to the bathroom I glanced over at her and made eye contact. She just looked at me, completely unafraid, and tried to stare me down, looking at me like I was garbage.
All I wanted to do was get married and have grandchildren. I would have done anything to make it work. She has been in therapy for more than four years and is on three antideppresants (Wellbutrin, Celexa and some sleeping aid that has antidepressant properties).
She also does yoga for the mental health benefits.
When I asked for the $500 Kenneth Cole leather coat and the Tiffany jewelry back, she said, "Those are my things." She's completely obnoxious. I don't know how someone I loved so much could treat me this way. The worst part is that she looked really good in court. Of course she meant to wear a really short skirt and show a lot of skin, and sit with her feet underneath her to look kittenish and victim-like. I had never before seen her sit like that in nine years of knowing her. She is manipulative to say the least.
I never hit her but man I think I should be allowed one good face slap for everything I've been through. I supported her for a year in grad. school while she went tuition-free and didn't touch any of her $30k in assets or take out loans to cover living expenses. She also spent $6k on our sick dog, refusing to euthanize him. She's still fighting battles from growing up w/ an alcoholic mother and alcoholic stepfather and being raped in her early adulthood.
She says I'm depressed because I had an alcoholic father but you know what? I had a beer w/ him (just one or two, not a bottle of vodka or anything....) and talked to him. At least I can do that. She hasn't spoken to her alcoholic same-sex parent in 10 years, and probably never will....
I just feel so used. To top it off, she has the best body on any girl I've ever seen. She gets a lot of attention, is five-ten, has long legs and blonde hair and blue eyes and is just gorgeous. That makes it even more of a blow to my ego, 'cause I'm sitting here all alone wondering how I'll ever get back on my feet.
I got into contact w/ her last live-in boyfriend, whom I betrayed as my best friend when she left him. He says he's glad I contacted him and he's taking me out to dinner. At least I've got a friend for life, on the positive side.
It seems like every college-educated white woman I know is either on antidepressants or in therapy. At least at a certain age--mid-twenties to early thirties. What the hell is going on here?
