Re:Family response weird and somewhat angering maddy: didn't bother to read the rest of this thread first ...
YES I am going through the same thing- not with my family but STBX's family. They are all very devout and STBX WAS a minister until he decided to run off. They all have lectured me on forgiveness and the sanctity of marrage etc(including STBX) Most of the time I have managed to remain civil but there have been a couple of times that I have cut loose on an in law or two for being just- well stupid. They have never been through this and they have no way of understanding what it's like. That is the only thing many times that has stayed my tounge and kept me from completely severing connections with them. I guess that's my longwinded way of saying - give them a break. They just don't know what to say. My parents(who are NOT religious) didn't know what to do or say either. I think I finally got my mother's attention one day when there was a confrontation with a neighbor and my mother said the lady was jelouse- "JELOUSE? OF WHAT? A LEAST SHE HAS A HUSBAND TO ****" My needs became a little clearer- (not necessarly sex- but human contact and interaction) and it's easier for her to talk to me now about the divorce. before my mom just didn't know where to go with it and was afraid of stepping on my toes and hurting me at a time when I was already hurting. sooo.. long story short give them a chance. at least... that's my feelings on the matter.
maddy
Re:Family response weird and somewhat angering freovir: wow, so much to weigh in on here. i'll try to be brief.
1) these are not devout christians who are being described just like saying I am gorgeous doesn't make me so. (but i am) Christianity, true Christianity, is not a religion to belong to, but a path that must be followed.
2) Some people suck.
3) Often times families suck. Case in point: My impending divorce is no longer discussed or mentioned. I mean didn't we talk about it in January? I guess I at least don't have to listen to all the praying their doing.
4) I can't change my past, or my family's history. The only thing I can do is make sure my girls are okay, loved, and cared for unconditionally.
5) Maybe that's just it. Families should love eachother unconditionally, and it's sad when we discover they don't.
6) no matter what your family, or anyone else tells you, know that God loves you and wants you to be happy.
Just my $.02 worth on a friday afternoon.
--freovir
