Re:Family response weird and somewhat angering Discarded: I would in no way call myself a devout christian, I haven't seen the inside of a church since my younger brothers wedding and he now has 2 kids. I find little solace within the church or within "christian" people who want to pray about everything, but rarely have their own insights or thoughts to help with the situation. I have come to believe it as a "cop-out" to doing anything constructive. IE Pray for the starving of the world after seeing an commercial asking for money because they feel bad to salve their own soul, but actually do nothing about it. ( I use this a an example only ) I live my life the best way that I know how to. I do follow very strict morals and my life parallels what is taught in the bible. I do believe, but I also believe that God helps those who help themselves, he provides the path you just have to walk it.
Sorry I'm kinda cynical about "religion" and "church" in most any form.
I do believe in the bible, what is taught in the bible, God, Jesus and the Holy Ghost, but I don't have to see the inside of a church to do that.
That being said:
I would hope that your family will support you in whatever fashion you need support in. They may not know how to respond right now and can't support a Non-decision. They may need you to make your decision so they can back you and your decision if you know what I mean. They need to know what kind of support you need.
When I entered the nightmare called Divorce I told my family in no uncertain terms what I needed from them. I told them the help that I would need to do what I wanted to do. If they couldn't back or support me in what I wanted to do then I would have had to change some of my decisions. They backed me 100% and will continue to support and back me. They tried to guide me prior to me making my decision, but that is something that I would not let them do although I appreciated what they had to say. It was a decision that I had to make. Your family may be letting you make your decision. Your decision is something you will have to live with and they know that you will have to live with it. They may not want to influence your decision.
Take care and Good luck
Discarded
I apologize if i offended anyone on this subject, but religion doesn't sit well with me and I have had multiple bad experiences with churches and religion.
Re:Family response weird and somewhat angering devochic: It may be a blessing in disguise. I shared my problems with my family, moving out, issues, etc. And now they try to control me and my life. They not only give advise, but try to push their beliefs on the situation on me.
I think it is best what your parents are doing. THey are letting you figure this out. Trust me they will support you, but these are decisions you will need to make for yourself.
The worst thing you can do is let others bias you (including your STBX). I wish you only the best. Personally, I pray to god every day for the wisdom to know what is right and the strength to do it.
Re:Family response weird and somewhat angering Shanna: I had the oposite of your problem...I had advise flying at me from every directions I actually told everyone I was greatful for their ideas and opinions, but I would make my own choices. That chilled them out some. So maybe it is a bleesing in disquise. You always have us ;D
Re:Family response weird and somewhat angering amess: Organized religion, bah. Opium of the masses.
Re:Family response weird and somewhat angering whythisnow: I grew up very religious but when my cousin died when he was 17 in a motorcyle accident and I was 21 I lost most of my faith. I stopped going to church.
I have studied every major religion. I got a minor in Theology in college to help prove there was no one answer. Thru this divorce I have prayed more then my entire life combined. I realize I do not need a church to have a spiritual relationship with God and God my not fit into a defined religious box. "There is more in life then you ever dreamed of in your philiosphy".
I came across a great book in my travels called " Living Buddha, Living Christ" it has helped me.
My family has supported me more then I ever expected. Please understand that for them to use the Religion card on you is a cop out. If one of my children came home and told me they did or were going to do something I dis-liked etc... I would support them. Parent - child bond is an un-coditional love. Unlike my STBX my children can not divorce from either parent.
It will be hard but out LOVE before religion and tell your parents you love them but dis-agree with the way they are supporting you. This is a time when friends and family will take sides. I am amazed that my STBX's friends have stopped by and stop my in the store or at school to tell me they are there for me. Take the moral high ground and when it comes out ( the truth always comes out) you will look and feel better.
This is a time in your life when you can start with a clean slate. Choose how you want to be treated by your friends and family and put boundries up and don't be affraid to say "no".
The basic goal of every human being is to find happiness. It is a journey. So find what you love to do and the people you love to be with. Now is your chance to be the person you dreamed you could become. There is HOPE !!! We have nothing to loss but our dysfunctional partners and relationship that we put up with to meet societies crazy rules. Find your PEACE !! Find your Happiness !!! You only get one chance at living your life so take it.
"Good times bad times, I know I had my share,When my woman left home For a brown eyed man,
Well, I still don't seem to care "
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