Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? justmenow: You're not the only one, JustMe - My X and I were married 13.5 years and never lived together. Although, he was over at my apartment all the time, he might as well have lived there. We only dated for six months before getting married.
I'm not convinced there is any good formula.
[quote"> I suspect the reason for this association may be that people who don't believe in living together before marriage are more likely not to believe in divorce. It may be a religious thing. That doesn't necessarily mean that their relationships are any happier/better...it just means that they may be more likely to stick with a relationship (even if it's bad).
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Makes sense to me.
Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? Spectrum: I lived with the ex for about 6 months before getting married. I can safely say that if I hadn't had my head up my a$$, I could have easily figured out how things would turn out based on those six months.
I forgave him a fairly major transgression basically every month we dated until we got married. HAHA... Once we got married I forgave him daily!
Spectrum.
Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? LoveFool: We met in the Fall of 1997. Moved in together in the fall of 1998. Got married in the fall of 2000. Seperated in the Fall of 2003 and will be divorced in the Summer of 2004.
Yeah, I also read somewhere that marriages are more likely to end up in divorce if the couple lived together prior to the marriage. But, if I ever do get married again Im definitely going to live with her first. I still believe you really get to know someone when you live with that person, because you get to wake up with them every morning and witness their good and bad habits.
LF
Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? faegonsgold: We met September 2001, engaged January 2002, he moved in to my apartment May 2002, married August 2002, separated October 2003, divorce finalized February 2004.
It didn't work for me....but doesn't mean I won't try it again. I take a neutral position about living together before marriage. ;D
Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? ChristyM: I lived with my ex for a year before marriage. I don't really "believe" in it because of religious reasons (let's put it better ... I wouldn't really want my daughter living with a guy). But it made sense at the time b/c we each had apartments and I was at his place ALL the time. Living together or not really played no part in my marriage collapse b/c we were married for 12 yrs and knew each other for 14. I can see pros and cons for both, but if you are spending every waking moment together and stay over at each other's place, you're bound to see that person's idiosyncracies regardless of whether your name is on the lease or not.
Christy
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