Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? brokenman: We lived together a whole year before getting married. It was a good experience on the whole. But I should have taken that time to notice the BIG RED WARNING FLAGS AND SIRENS rather than excusing everything and getting married anyway. :-\
Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? ostia: I lived with my X for 7 years before we got married...then we were married for 4 years before he dumped me for another woman. >:( :P
I do believe that it's important to live with someone for a while (at least 6 months or a year) before getting married, just to make sure you can live happily together. Living with a lover is a very different dynamic from dating someone, as we all know. However, living with someone is no guarantee that things will work out in the long run, sadly.
Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? JustMe: Thanks for everyone's replies, seems like I'm the lone non-live in.
Lone - yep, I dated my stbx for two years and mainly saw her on the weekends sometimes during the week. She had shoes/clothes at my house and vice versa.
I talked about moving in when we got engaged, but she didn't want to. Plus she had a good job as a nurse, living in her own house about 4 blocks away and mainly settled. So I let it go. I knew that once we were married, she would be changing everything including her job, moving to a city an hour away, etc.
Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? jason_stl: Moved in together in 1998. Lived with her for a year and a half before proposing, but she was basically giving me an ultimatum in 1999. Married in 2000. Separated in 2003. Divorced in 2003.
They say your chance for divorce is much higher if you live with your spouse before being married.
Re:Poll: Did you or didn't you live together? ostia: [quote author=jason_stl link=board=1;threadid=3042;start=0#msg24728 date=1085588096">
They say your chance for divorce is much higher if you live with your spouse before being married.
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I suspect the reason for this association may be that people who don't believe in living together before marriage are more likely not to believe in divorce. It may be a religious thing. That doesn't necessarily mean that their relationships are any happier/better...it just means that they may be more likely to stick with a relationship (even if it's bad).
I don't think there's anything about living with a partner before marriage, in and of itself, that makes the marraige less likely to last.
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