Re: Making plans w/ new 'dates' superwife: [quote author=goosetapeman link=topic=30505.msg303034#msg303034 date=1151059624">
if it were me, id consentrate on being me, and fine tuning my happily single for now quest, and go alone.........[/quote">
Ummmm....no. Actually if this guy doesn't pan out, I think I will be taking a break from this business. It's getting tiring.
And if you guys haven't noticed, I am not happily single. So therefore, i don't really want to concentrate on that (new thread to follow...)
But my point is, if i have someone at the time, i'm obviously going to bring him, right?? I just question the timing of the appropriateness of asking...
[quote"> imagine all the bachelors at that wedding? lol
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No, I really can't imagine that. Things like that don't happen to sw. If they did, I wouldn't need to resort to pof!! :D
Re: Making plans w/ new 'dates' 2be: That is a difficult situation for sure. Just let him know about the wedding and ask him "if he is available" at the time, if he'd like to go. That kinda leaves it open to his schedule AND if you two are still together at that time.
If he's not around then, I'll go with you. ;)
It's tough. When K invited me to go to this recent music festival with her, it was when she was all excited about me and the relationship (like 2 months ago). So by the time the festival rolled around, our relationship was very different. I asked her multiple times that I didn't need to go if it was going to be uncomfortable for her, but I never got an answer. It was like I never asked the question. So after the third time without a response, I just assumed we still were going.... and we went.
Re: Making plans w/ new 'dates' tara: If I was at this point, I'd probably go solo to the wedding and not worry about it. If you're still with the guy in August, well, he has to work anyway, and might not want to sacrifice a vacation day or a day's pay to go to a wedding where he'd know you and nobody else.
But I understand your trepidation -- when J and I had been seeing each other for maybe three weeks, he invited me to a play a month out. That gave me a (silent) freak-out, as I didn't want to actually get involved with anyone that quickly. (I did end up accepting, realizing that plays involve advanced tickets, arranging child care, etc., and the worst that could happen is we'd stop seeing one another and he'd either be out the ticket cost, which I'd offer to reimburse, or take someone else.)
Re: Making plans w/ new 'dates' NO DATE: this is too easy... come on! ask the guy to go to the wedding! and if he say's yes then in like a day or two ask him to go shopping with you for a gift and once he has money invested there is practicaly no way he's going to flake you [trust me this is going to work">
Re: Making plans w/ new 'dates' fkunone: Look. Don't ask him until maybe about a week before the wedding. If anything, if you guys are still seeing each other by then (and I'm guessing from your post, it's what you may be expecting), then he'll more than likely say yes.
I understand your jaded look on making advance plans. But I think you're doing fine with waiting to ask. If he flakes on you at the last minute...have a backup plan of some kind, I suppose. What that might be? I dunno. I'm sure there's SOMEONE who's willing to go. But then again, you don't want to bring a complete stranger.
Man, this IS a tough one...
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