Nervous kitkat: Well, stbx and I had come to an agreement on terms for the divorce. I didn't like them from the beginning. I think I went along so I wouldn't have to deal with the stress of confrontation.
Tonight we're talking about those terms. I told him I don't agree and I don't want anything signed and sealed until I was 100% sure of everything.
I know it's going to be a disaster tonight. He's used to getting what he wants (except me! ha!). I've always been the one to give in for the sake of harmony.
I need some guts for this. I need to stand my ground.
Compromise isn't me giving in to what he wants...and that's what it's been up until now.
Well, if he won't compromise then it'll be court in Oct.
I feel sick to my stomach.
Re: Nervous brokenbaby: You will be okay. Just keep breathing and remind yourself that you are doing this for YOU. The absolute most important person in your life. I am going to court in July. Because of the same issues. You can do this.
Re: Nervous kitkat: Thanks, I'm going to sit down and list my responses for things I know he's going to say. He's very good at twisting things to suit him. He knows my buttons far too well.
I will be straightforward and not waver in my desires.
I'll try to remember the breathing thing.
If I pass out I'll know why ;)
Re: Nervous LNC: It is all about compromise. you have to be willing to give and take to settle out of court. And if he is not willing to do that, then off to court so the judge can divide it equally. In my case, everything is pretty much settled, 50/50 profit of home, Joint custody, Visitation, Furniture divided 40/60 she has physical custody. Paid all joint bills, and she did not take my retirement which is 3/50...meaning at age fifty I retire at 97% my salary. and only 500 child support...
I think we did pretty good...
just negociate. Best of luck to you and stand your ground.
-LNC
Re: Nervous NO DATE: broken record technique for you!!!!
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