I'm the new guy ChrisM: Hi everybody....
Like I said I'm new to this. I was married all of 10 months when my wife decided to leave. We had been having problems for awhile. We disagree, to a certain extent, on how long, but nonetheless they were there. We are still just seperated, but i sent her the dissolution paperwork last week.
I've read some other posts and it's amazing how similar mine sounds to a lot of other people's problems. I want her back, she's not sure what she wants. I feel like I can't do this anymore. A month ago I finally opened up and told her how I was truly feeling instead of being a hard ass. Things got worse from there. Before I did this she talked about getting back together and rekindling. Now it's "I don't think it can work out". It just doesn't make any sense to me.
I'm done calling and emailing her, it doesn't work. I had something of an epiphany today after an argument with her. Just leave her alone and let her feel insignificant for awhile. I've been calling and emailing almost everyday, and it hasn't helped. She's been avoiding me for over a month, now it's my turn. Arguing about the past does no good, we can't change that. We can only work on solutions to those old problems, and work towards the future. If she can't see that, or doesn't want to do it, then it's over. I'll have to deal with that part when it comes.
Nice to have a place to talk to people with similar problems. Don't have many friends I can hang out with, and I can "vent" here.
CHRIS
Re:I'm the new guy jason_stl: You will never understand women.
Welcome to the club.
Re:I'm the new guy picadilly: Amen, Brother.
Leave her be & stop bothering her. Begging her to come back isn't working & it's not helping your self esteem. You really don't want to be with someone that you have to beg to take you back, thats not love, not by a long shot.
Give her space & maybe she'll come around eventually but don't hang all your eggs in that basket, get out, meet new people & try to be happy with yourself & who you are now... not who you were as a couple. Thing's do get better over time, you will never stop loving her, as she had a part of your heart but you will love again, in time. Heal yourself & your self esteem.
Be well.
Re:I'm the new guy seth: When my lady left on April 3 at 9:30 p.m., about 45 days ago, I actually got down on my knees and hugged her while she was trying to open the door and I begged her not to leave me. In fact, I think my exact words were, "Please don't leave me.
Wow! That was pathetic. I feel your pain...
