Re: Conquering The Fear... sheydp: Fear of the unknown can be used to make you more prepared... but prepared or not, this stuff is survivable. The things that go wrong, you can prepare for next time. The key is just to go out and DO it! When you know you survived it, you can do better next time.
Shey
Re: Conquering The Fear... yella: Ohhh!!! Speaking of... my 7 year old went "Blah, blah, blah" to me when I was trying to talk to him at t-ball!!! I freaked, took him aside and set that record straight real quick! No freakin way is my kid going to talk to me like that!
This is another challenge... the other day at the day-care, the provider's younger son was running up to his room to get a stuffed animal, while his mother (the provider) was telling him "no" and was trying to tell him that he'd miss the bus. When I walked in, she saw me and said, "K, tell him!" So I said, "B, we're going to miss the bus, there's no time for stuffed animals." The little bugger went up to get it anyway, brings it down, she tries to take it from him and he HITS her! That's pretty much all I needed to see, so I stepped in, tapped him on the shoulder, and told him to get in the car, leaving the toy behind. He could tell I meant busniess. So he wasn't happy, but got in the car.
On the school mornings, they like to swing in the swings while we wait for the bus, but there was no way it was happening this day. So, he looked at me and asked why we weren't going out. I turned around and gave him the reasons why. I explained to him that it's WRONG to hit, but to hit your mother is beyond wrong. I explained that she takes good care of him (which he quickly denied), and complained about the things he can't do. Typical kid, but I gave him a pretty stern talk. I also explained, which they already know, that if T ever pulled something like that, everything he owns is gone! That's the ulitmate line to cross in my book. You cross that line and it's all over!
The one thing I can say I do well alone is raising these kids so they have respect for their elders. They push the buttons, but I'm not the kind of mom to let the big button pressing go, nor will I ever be.
Totally went off on a tangent there... sorry!
Re: Conquering The Fear... Feel: No Smiley this is great I need hep as well I like to hear these things... and I also need to get my son to tell me what he does with dad, he keeps it from me but tells his dad everything about us... I have him most of the time.
Yesterday he blurted out that he has a secret with dad, I asked what he said it's a secret, I can't tell u or the wolf will come, Daddy and me are "secret agents"... NOW THAT IS MIND BOGGLING...
I spoke to a doctor he recommended a book..."HOW TO TALK SO KIDS WILL LISTEN AND LISTEN SO KIDS WILL TALK"... Just started it...
Also, for any of you, look this up, "PARENT ALIENATION SYNDROME"
WOW, now that will make your hairs stand!
Re: Conquering The Fear... Lance: I am about to go back home for vacation for 3 weeks. First time without her in 6 years. I don't even know if half my family knows the situation. Fortunately I have a lot of friends up there and an ailing Father and they will keep me hopping! So I will suck whatever enjoyment I can out of this time away from this lonely existance I am living in here.
Re: Conquering The Fear... LostTeacher: unfortunately i don't have kids, but i am planning my first vacation on my own.
my family has been a little nervous about it. i mean, i've never driven that far on my own. i've never gone on that vacation before alone...it was something i always did with my ex.
but it's time that i do things on my own. i've done some big things, like leasing a car, looking for a house, leasing 2 apartments, deciding to go back to school.
you can do anything you put your mind to. whether it's big or small.
you can do it!!
LT
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