Help Me I Have Failed!! gstrait1fan06: I have had very rough week, I have found out that my stbxh has started sleeping with an older woman. Then I made the mistake of contacting him by text message and phone last night to talk about how I still love him and miss him. Only to be told that he does not love me and does not miss me. What did I do in my life to become such a failure?
Dee
Re: Help Me I Have Failed!! Feel: My god, don't talk like that you are not a failure, he failed, he failed the realtionship...
If it makes him feel like a better man to be with an older women than he has always needed his mummy.... :o
don't ever feel like what yous adi a that moment was not right, sometimes we just need the reasurence!
Re: Help Me I Have Failed!! Redponcho: I do not know your story but, If someone doesnt love you it is not your fault. Reflect on what happened you will ralize that you probably went out of your way to be a good wife. I realized that soon after my wife left she most likely will not ever find anyone else that loved her as much as me. I was more mad at myself for trying too hard and not seeing the signs. If you were faithfull and honest to hime then you should be proud. Now you need to realize this and try to act in a way that you will continue to feel good about yourself. Just because someone doesnt love us does not make us failures. Keep your chin up it will get better.
Re: Help Me I Have Failed!! yella: Dee...
Just know that at some point in time we've all done this. But it in no way makes you a failure. Not in any way at all.
We all have a point of weakness and vulnerability, and we all slip at one time or another. You just have to allow yourself to feel the sting from it, pick up, brush off, and work harder to avoid letting it over take you the next time. The next time you get that urge, post here first and we'll talk you out of it, but forgive yourself for doing it.
It's ok to make mistakes. ;)
Re: Help Me I Have Failed!! RW1976: One thing I have realize while on this board is that it has to be about you first. I was reflecting on my relationship yesterday and was very sad that it is over. But, I look on the other side and say, " You know, I am trying hard to make this work and she isn't. There are a ton of people out there that deserve the kind of love and attention I can give to them."
I love her and will always love her. Things change that is part of life, what you take from life's changes is what is important. The next person I fall in love with is going to be very lucky.
RW
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