Re: Help Me I Have Failed!! larry: Hi Dee,
Everything everyone here is saying about failure is correct. You're going to slip every now and then. I know I have. And it's not a pleasant or fun thing to admit to. Like someone said, we all have our weaknesses, and it's ok if you made a mistake.
Granted, it does take two to make a marriage work, that's correct. But it sounds like you tried where he did not. Like Fleur said, it doesn't count if you cite the problems AFTER leaving. If he did want it to work, he would have done it before leaving. It sounds to me from what you're describing that he wanted you exactly how he wanted you, his way. Everyone's going to have issues and quirks. Part of loving someone is accepting them for that. Some things you can change, some things you can't. "Give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference". It just sounds to me like he wasn't willing to accept your faults.
And let's say for the sake or argument that maybe there WERE things you could have made better. It's not going to help you now that it's done with. And if there are things you can change, go for it. It'll make you that much better for the next person who deserves you and you them. You cannot beat yourself up over it, and you cannot blame yourself. You are genuinely a good person and deserve all the respect in the world. Don't let him guilt you, he made the choice to leave, not you. I will keep you in my prayers :)
