DAD *Cut* the LEASH to the s2bx incoherentlonghorn: My s2bx husband just called...the one who won't let me move, made me rehnig on my dream job, virtually making me unemployed...
His last grandmother just died and he wanted emotional support from ME?????????
After 10 minutes of I haven't spoken to her since we split and my mother died, I feel so guilty, I can't find my family members to tell them since no one in his family keeps in touch with each other...
then the clincher...I can't afford to go to the funeral....oh you just had you're living room remodeled, a new sink put in, new digital camera, an x-box, sea world and six games in the last month and YOU CAN'T AFFORD A TICKET...
WHO do you think he wanted to pay...ME.
So I told my dad and he said...is XXXXX at work or home...I will buy him a ticket...
COME ON...am I crazy or has this man not made my life hell...am I wrong for thinking he needs to learn to be financially responsible for himself??????????????
Re:DAD *Cut* the LEASH to the s2bx jason_stl: Can I agree with both you and your father on this one?
Re:DAD *Cut* the LEASH to the s2bx incoherentlonghorn: The really mad s2bx wife is just not going to budge....but the real me feels really bad...
But please consider my parents paid for him to fly out the last three deaths...this would be #4. Didn't he learn the first three times???
Re:DAD *Cut* the LEASH to the s2bx Bob-Bob: hey Lone Longhorn,
Just want to say that hmmm it makes you a really fine individual to care and be caring... it shows character and it is really natural to be torn in your reaction to someone that you loved and was a huge part of your life... There is nothing wrong with feeling sorry for and being angry at our ex's at the same time....
Bob
Re:DAD *Cut* the LEASH to the s2bx brokenman: I think the s2bx should find his own way to the funeral. Pity and sympathy are free and you are not even obligated to give him either of those, but it wouldn't hurt. Paying his way is the wrong thing for you dad to do. Can you say enabler? E-N-A-B-L-E-R. Good. You are totally right to be offended at his request for a ticket. It would do him some good to stick out his thumb and hitch a ride if he has to. That might show him what the world is really like out there.
I take the hard line on divorce. You are separating your lives. Therefore, you should cut every tie between the two that can safely be cut (children are about the only tie that should remain). I would hope that if you asked your dad to not buy the ticket he would respect your wishes.
Hold your ground and don't feel bad. Should someone feel bad for not giving whisky to a drunk? Or crack to a junkie? If he never suffers the reprocussions of failing to manage his money, he will never learn. So in the long run, not helping him out is the RIGHT thing to do.
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